Marriage is a unification of two people who agree to spend their rest of life together. There are different forms of marriages in different societies but what is the common in all the marriages is the commitment of two people to share every moment, sorrow, happiness and everything else for the rest of their life. This is like a long journey where two travelers join each other for the pleasant journey and to reach at a specific destination. Sustenance of marriages has been emerged as a big issue in the complex life of today. People are getting divorce and the marriages are not sustaining for longer times. This paper discusses a good marriage and further talks about several other related aspects of a good marriage.
Marriage is another name of commitment and when two people enter into matrimony, they must rub out the word ‘divorce’ from their vocabulary. Divorce should not be an option for the parties of a marriage and every effort should be made to make a marriage successful and blissful. The divorce cases are reported in the developed societies more than the traditional societies and the reason is the lack of tolerance among individuals, lack of commitment to each other, individualism and independence. On the other hand, marriage is considered as heavenly and bond of several births in the traditional societies which inspires the people to be more committed and respectful to each other.
A good marriage is where couples respect each other and takes care of each other’s requirements and preferences. In a good marriage couples keep each other at centre stage and always give priority to the opinions of each other. The marriage life is a blend of good and bad experiences and couple accepts each other in a good marriage. No two individuals can be identical hence the secret of happy marriage life is not in change but it lies in accepting each other. Sometimes they have to pacify their own interests, tests as well as preferences and give priority to the interests of their better half. Love is all about the giving and not demanding so it is very significant to sacrifice own choices for the others, in a matrimonial relationship.
Communication plays a very important role in the continuation of a good marriage. Every relationship passes through smooth and rough patches but in a good marriage it is necessary to communicate properly to avoid any misunderstandings. In case any misunderstanding takes place, the couples should resolve their issues by smooth mutual conversation. In a good marriage love get more preference over ego which helps in resolving any type of conflict between couple. It has been noticed that many of the marriages broke up due to unresolved conflict. It is possible that in some situations couple may have different opinions but it does not mean that they should opt for any violence act. Good couple resolves their issues by healthy communication and negotiation. They support and respect each other ideas by accepting a common deal leaving their ego behind. Apart from that, smooth and mutual communication is required to nurture a good marriage. Exchanging good, lovable and romantic words mutually is important for the continuation of a good marriage.
After marriage life change from me to us and majority of couples faces the problem of loss of individualism and feel trapped. In a good marriage partners give space to each other and some time to spend on once hobbies. After marriage couples often get involve in day to day activities together and destroy their independence. Good couple encourages and support each other to spend time in self hobbies and with friends. It helps couples in maintaining their freedom and independence at the same trust level.
Lack of romance is also another reason which leads to separation and divorce among married couples. In a good marriage, people keep their love and passion alive. After marriage people get tied up with various responsibilities including responsibilities of children, this brings various changes in personality. In such hectic situations good couples understand each other and give emotional support to their better half. They do not forget to flirt with each other, go on dates and dinners together.
After having observed the complete analysis, it is good to say that a good marriage life is a gift and requires lots of sacrifices but the pleasure of a good marriage are absolutely incomparable. The good marriage life teaches a number of things to the people and further helps him or her in being a good human being and in good life. Maimonides, Jewish philosopher of the 12th century says that one's love for God should be equal to love for his or her spouse. He adds that one should be "love sick," thinking of own spouses "whether you are sitting or standing, eating or drinking." As soon as one starts feeling such passion in the marriage life, he or she becomes eligible to be connected god.
Works Cited
Barbara M. Newman and Philip R. Newman. Development through life: a psychosocial approach. Stamford, Connecticut: Cengage Learning, 2006.
Judith S. Wallerstein and Sandra Blakeslee. The good marriage: how and why love lasts. Boston: Houghton Mifflin, 1995.
