One of the most demanding, challenging and complicated missions in life may be parenting. Parenting may not only be conceiving or giving birth to a child. It entails the way of raising, growing and educating a child. Parents try their best to achieve a thriving job rather than to be responsible parents. In the interest of achieving their goals, parents should have some discipline and ground rules in their home as a technique to use to educate their children. Thus, since parents may be required to excel in their specific jobs and since children follow only what is taught, parents should use the “authoritarian parenting” that may be beneficial in the long-run. Parents who implement strict rules over their children make them disciplined and obedient. However, since sometimes this authoritarian parenting style may be cruel and harsh, moderate use of this technique of “authoritarianism” may be encouraged. In other words, being an “authoritarian parent” may be a rewarding technique for the benefit of the child, but parents ought not to exaggerate its use. That is exactly how children grow to be responsible, obedient and successful adults.
Parents are masters whereas they consider children disciples. In fact, parents may be used to guide their children. Indeed, when the parent treats her/his child harshly and severely, the child grows-up to take life seriously and be independent. This occurs when the child is trained that nothing may be easy in life and that the child needs to make endeavors so as to succeed in life. Moreover, the authoritarian parents’ objective may be to teach their kid how to manage problems, how to deal with abnormal situations and life itself. The child therefore becomes aware and learns to be mature and responsible and its relevance for the sake of their well- being and social security. Supervision and behavioral advice results from behavioral attitudes. For instance, when parents are very strict, concerned and attentive to their children, they demonstrate good grades academically. As a Consequence, authoritarian parenting has an effect on the child’s competence and they act as a combination to each other. Early childhood life experiences may be very vital to the emotional and intellectual development of a child; seventy five percent of brain growth is comprehensive. Bowlby insists that signs of “emotional affection” between child and parent may generally be not encouraged since emotions may be seen mainly signals weakness and affection may be an indication of “spoiling” (Bowlby). Authoritarian parents stalwartly believe in their children and presume their children to be better and can still be the best. For instance, these parents have knowledge on what their child can be and their rank as the first in school. They also don’t want their children to ever experience failure and want them to be triumphant in everything they place their energy and efforts into.
It may be said that authoritarian parents may be status-oriented and obedience-oriented, and look forward to their orders being obeyed without any explanation (Baumrind, pp. 349-378). It may be correct that children who are raised by parents who are authoritarian may create personality traits that may be negative like lack of audacity; however, that does not mean they are terrified, scary or afraid. Instead they are physically powerful because of the severe ways of that they may be raised in. In addition, these children do not grow to be rude nor spoiled; instead they grow up to be accountable and capable. By means of explanation, these children constantly know what to do in an awkward situation; moreover, the child also may be aware of consequences in life. In the same way, children also have limits in free thoughts that assist them afterwards in their professions later in life, as well as in their future parenthood. The basis for that may be for the reason that, when these children grow-up and turn into the next generation, they always know how to be responsible adults and deal with life in general.
Most people may be convinced that authoritarian parenting may be the most suitable means to keep their children “in check”; if a child is afraid of their parents, he/she tends to behave and conduct himself/herself better than kids who never fear anybody. Authoritarian parents tend to be strict parents that require intense expectations and never let their children express their self. These parents’ expectations may be considered to be indeed high and they never allow their children express themselves and hold to their judgments and opinions; nevertheless, they authoritarian parents never want to risk bringing-up their children as spoiled children that turn out to be immature adults. In other words, a child that is spoiled may never be satisfied with her/his life and nothing would seem fine, hence he/she may have difficulty in locating happiness.
Authoritarian parents may be way better than negligent parents. Authoritarian parents love and care for their children and what they do; at least they consider what they do to be best for their children. Negligent parents never ask their child or children as regards their education, how their day was and also about their friends. The end result of it may be that “a lot of times children grow-up feeling bitter against their parents for being negligent and frequently may be estranged from them in adulthood (Kaminski). Moreover, these children ignore their parents when they grow-up and in turn, neglect them. On the contrary, children raised by parents that are authoritarian will forever grateful to their parents, particularly when they grow-up and experience excellent outcomes that are products of how they were raised.
In conclusion, Authoritarian parents tend to nurture a relationship and establish a close with their children while at the same time supporting and maintaining a fairly high-level of guidelines and rules to follow. This method may be perceived to be the most obvious and healthiest technique to raise a child. Children ought not to be spoiled; however they should not be treated like brutes, given that in both cases, they never grow-up to be normal.
Works cited
Baumrind, Diane. Child development today and tomorrow. San Francisco: Jossey-Bass, 1999. pp. 349-378. Print.
Bowlby, John. Instructional Psychology. New York: Basic Books, 1969. Print.
Kaminski, Jason. The Four Common Types of Parenting Styles. Chicago, 2008. Print.
