Sending a child to a school or a kindergarten, all parents expect their children to study there and to make friendship with the peers. The children are supposed to spend a lot of time in these establishments, so the school or the kindergarten must become a place the child likes and feels comfortable. But sometimes the parents can notice that instead of being happy, active, and excited about the time spent at school, children come home sad, depressed, and low-spirited. Of course, there may be thousands of reasons – bad marks, problems at school, illness or just a bad mood. But if to be sad, inactive, and silent, has become a habit, it is time to sound the alarm. Maybe you child faces bullying at school.
Bullying is rather a widespread phenomenon in the modern society that attacks not just children and teens, but adults as well. A person may be bullied all his or her life if not to stop it in time. Still bullying is more common among children. And what is strange and unacceptable is the fact many teachers and parents regard it as an inevitable part of children’s relations and the maturation process. This adults’ indifference and inaction definitely contribute to the development of the bullying behavior both of a bully and a victim. In such case, it is important to identify the reason for bullying, to stop it, and prevent its happening in the future.
If adults’ ignorance contributes to the development of the bullying, there are always reasons that cause it. Very often the origin of it lies in some difference between the bully and the victim, let us say, religious, racial, sexual etc (Bullying and Cyberbullying Facts). These indifferences develop in further hostility or even hate. So very often our disability to understand and to accept someone as a person and his or her believes, leads to victimization and bullying.
The bullies always choose people whom they consider weaker and who cannot resist them. Any type of bullying implies violent treating and behavior towards another person. The victimization and watching other people suffering always gives the bullies feeling of power and strength. It means the bully may suffer from bullying, lack of attention or feels powerless in his or her own life and so on (Bullying and Cyberbullying Facts). So very often the bullies need a help as well as the victims. The only difference is the victims should learn to handle bullying and cope with it and the bullies need to learn to control their emotions.
Very often bullying could be stopped in the initial stage of its development. Sometimes even one word, gesture, movement can explain the bully that this is not the way he or she can behave with you. We by ourselves show other people how they can treat us, speak with us and so on. Very often the victims allow bullies to offend and despise them simply by keeping silence, crying, being nervous etc, actually, doing everything the bully wants them to do (Bullying and Cyberbullying Facts). So one more reason for bullying is inaction and incorrect behavior of the victim. The main task of a person facing bullying is to identify what the bully wants to get. If he or she does not get the desirable emotion or reaction for a long time, he or she is very likely to stop bullying soon.
Bullying is a very negative phenomenon that can destroy lives both of a victim and a bully. It is especially dangerous in the school age when children do not understand until the end the consequences of their behavior and actions. The task of the teachers and parents is to prevent bullying and help children to overcome this situation. Otherwise, being a bully or a victim may become one of the social roles for the person for his or her entire life. Both teachers and parents should learn children to live in peace, love, and respect to each other. They should realize that they are the example to follow. So if the adults allow themselves to speak or treat bad another people, let them not expect their children to behave differently. Anyway, being a bully or a victim is not a verdict and a person can cope with this and learn to behave in a proper way. He or she just needs some time and make some efforts. It is much more interesting to be outgoing and have lots of friends than to be someone other people avoid.
Works cited
Bullying and Cyberbullying Facts. NOBullying.com, 2016, nobullying.com. Accessed 31 Jan. 2017.
