Cause and Effect of Divorce
People from all over the world get married so that they can depend on each other. Some couples are unable to maintain their relationship so they choose divorce, which is one of the solutions to cope with the problems between husband and wife. Most people think carefully before they get married. However, the divorce rates tend to continually increase nowadays. There are three main causes of divorce: changes in women’s role, stress in modern living and lack of communication.
The first significant cause of increasing rates in divorce is that women have completely changed their roles. ‘With the advent of globalization, women realized that they can be independent economically, and they can also earn their own life without the consent of the man’ (Kirtay). In the past, men had to earn the for the household expense, and women only had to do domestic work. Because the husband made the money, it was difficult for women to leave. Nowadays this situation has entirely changed. Women are able to work outside home; men are expected to share such household responsibilities as cooking, cleaning, washing as well as caring for children. It can be clearly seen that women have become more independent, and they can support themselves.
Another cause of increase in divorce rate is the stress in modern living. Many people, who live in this generation, have considerable pressures to earn money. It can be seen that the stress has occurred since they were children. For instance, some people are laid off from their companies; consequently the stress occurs in their family, which leads to divorce. Couples often end up having disputes over money. In many cases one of the partners is invariably not happy with the spending habits of the other individual. This can result in massive fights. Some people are unable to cover their family expenses, no matter whether they are able to earn enough money or not. In such circumstances, it is also easy to start thinking of divorce. Another source for the stress of living is illusion. When getting married, people often dream of a fairy tale to come true. They believe that they have finally found their true soul mates. Unfortunately, reality proves to be quite the contrary more often than we might expect. Stories do not always have beautiful endings. Alcohol and Substance Abuse, any form of substance abuse can put a terrible strain on a relationship as substance abuse is often followed by abusive behavior. Many people cannot put up with the addictive behavior of their partners and this causes divorce. Sexual Problems, improper and problematic attitudes towards sex also results in problems within the marriage and this is responsible for eventual divorce. Infidelity in particular has been responsible for breakdown of many relationships and marriages. Jealous Attitude, immaturity on the part of one of the partners and placing excessive demands on the partner are also some of the causes of divorce. And many young couples complain about too much meddling and involvement of their in-laws in their lives. There are also complains of excessive demands of the in-laws on their time and this puts a strain on the marital relationship.
Lack of communication is also one of the common causes of divorce, because of it people are unable to resolve problems and issues that occur within the relationship and the conflicts can cause tremendous strain on the relationship in the end. Many times people have unrealistic expectations from marriage and what it is supposed to be like and when this distorted view is not realized, it results in divorce.
In conclusion, irrespective of whether divorce is mutually agreed upon or a contested one, it can be a terrible experience for both the individuals. Divorce can never be an easy affair and effects of divorce on the individuals involved include depression and stress. However, sometimes divorce might have some positive effect as well. It is true especially in cases when two individuals are involved in a very angressive or bitter relationship. Divorce in such a case can actually help the individuals to get their lives sorted out and find happiness on their own without being a burden to a healthy relationship.
References
Kirtay, H. The Effect of Globalization on Women’s Problems in Developing Countries. Retrieved from https://www.academia.edu/11907764/THE_EFFECT_OF_GLOBALIZATION_on_WOMEN_S_PROBLEMS_in_DEVELOPING_COUNTRIES
