It was in a nice afternoon that I had sat in a restaurant with a colleague after work. He is a man who is usually conservative and I could not predict what was up for discussion. However, being the two of us in a shade, I believed this day we would share a lot with the man.
Following the conservative nature of the friend, I was mindful of what he was about to share with me. It was not a guarantee that he had something in particular that he wanted us to share since I still doubted how he could open up to me. At several instances, the man has been confronted by other colleagues for keeping so many problems into himself. Therefore, I had to be mindful of what he was about to say to me, and why he could trust me as the best person he could share the problem with.
At the moment, I begun being mindful of the man a lot of activities were running in my mind. I had extremely many thoughts running in me, and I felt there was a need of thinking about this man. The most critical question that this man had posed to me is why should he trust me on anything and why I am the only person he chose to share the problem with? At the time, I was thinking about the conversation I could look at the man and his conduct at the moment. He looked stressed giving me an idea that what he was about to tell me was not enticing.
Following the deep thought about the problem that the man would be undergoing, I always found myself absent minded. I could hardly respond accordingly to any question or statement he posed to me. At some point, he would explain an issue and I continuously nodded up to points where I was not required to node. I could mindlessly answer to some questions he posed until he noticed I was not concentrating on what he said.
As he talked, I also realized that he was absent minded. He could easily contradict what he was talking about by introducing an extremely new topic in the middle of another topic. His statements were consistently incomplete posing another point of mindlessness as indicated by the colleague. As I tried to enquire more about the problem, he could easily get confused and answer the question as not expected.
There were some lessons that were evident during the conversation as learnt in class. One of the lessons that were evident is that people will always find themselves mindful of each other during a conversation. It is human nature to think of each other while one expresses a problem. However, being mindful does not alienate mindlessness. It is in the nature of a conversation for individuals to be mindless leading to confusion among the parties involved.
Being mindful is a critical virtue for any human being. It may be nurtured by engaging in certain behaviors. One of the behaviors is ensuring that one is fully engaged in the conversation by asking relevant questions as well as answering the questions asked to one’s full ability. This will encourage partners in conversation to continue in the conversation. Being mindful may be nurtured by learning and nurturing listening skill. This assists an individual in flowing with a conversation and capturing main elements that may make the conversation enjoyable and avoid distraction by asking or answering questions as not required. Listening encourages the partner to speaking as he or she will feel he or she is talking sense, and it was acceptable to the other partner.
