Handling children with ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder) or ADD (Attention Deficit Disorder) can be quite cumbersome (Stein, 2001). This is because such children are not disciplined and tend to oppose even the simplest instructions. Handling such children can be quite a challenge especially since I was teaching them. They tend to disrupt lessons and are rather destructive and insensitive to the well being of the other children. While working as a teacher, I sought to help these children to make friends while teaching them to relax at specific times.
However, my efforts often felt futile since the children quickly forgot what I had taught them. I felt like I was going round in circles. I wanted to give up on them and ask for a shift to another class. However, I decided that would not be fair to them or to me. I started to involve the children’s parents in the whole process, and I have seen considerable improvement. I am glad I did not give up. I think I displayed the dutiful trait since I wanted to give up prematurely due to the small mistakes that the children did. I wanted to blame myself for not being competent enough. This is one of the intropunitive traits in which people tend to give up due to self-doubt and self-blame.
Self-awareness can be achieved through reflecting on previous reactions to challenging situations. One may also inquire from close friends and family about how they think you react to different situations. This will help determine where your personal traits lie as far as handling failure is concerned. For people with an intropunitive trait, development of self-confidence and capabilities will aid in developing a reaction to failures. This may be through a change of attitude and personal esteem using mantras (Weiten and Dunn, 2012). Awarding yourself when you successfully handle a situation of failure also helps develop one’s personality type. Knowledge of the different types of personality is crucial since it determine how we can respond to the failure of others. Encouragement will help those going through different failures.
References
Weiten, W., & Dunn, D. (2012). Psychology Applied To Modern Life: Adjustments in The 21st
Century (10th ed.). Belmont, CA: Wadsworth/Cengage Learning.
Stein, D. B. (2001). Unraveling the ADD/ADHD Fiasco: Successful Parenting without Drugs.
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