Psychology of humanity is as interesting as presented by Bowlby in this article. The idea that human beings view the world through mental images that can change at the event of a new experience or set of experiences is interesting, and relates closely to the subjective views that many people hold. This ideal therefore holds a valid stand in the psychological areas of humanity and relationships. The subsequent section explains the variances that inform attachment theory.
The exposition of the attachment theory explains a critical phenomenon in the life of humanity and psychology. From the previous study of young children and their detachment, effect from their mothers provides a clear illustration of attachment paradigm. Attachment from the perspective of Bowlby denotes a type of relationship that one develops with particular person or persons in the process of development. From the perspective of a child growing, several factors denote a realistic variance to extract a relationship. This relationship may exist between the child and the mother, caregiver, adult, or even a close friend. Such relationships are vital and pivotal in future relationships as adults. The success and primaries of such relationships are the foundational blocks of adult-to-adult relationships. Attempts to mess with them lead to a breakdown and mistrust in future relationships.
Ideally, the paradigm if attachment theory becomes useful in the manner of exposition in the article. From the article, certain issues emerge that are vital in illustrating the elements of attachment and childhood. The idea by Bowlby that lack of such attachment may lead to calling and crying tend to restrict their responses to the infant childhood era. This is quite different from teen and adolescent stages when the lack may cause silence and inappropriate behavior. Clinging to the person in many, countries also become ideal, as many caregivers and friends tend to have a means of relating to their friends in modest and affectionate terms. It is true that such behavior lack any element of sexual attachment. Nonetheless, there are occasions when strong attachments have the ability to create a deterrent when the person has later sexual ordeals. Such are the cases of psychoanalysis where Sigmund Freud talks of the two complexes. According to the Oedipus complex, the sons get a strong attachment to the mother, which may get sexual to the point of envying the father. These psychoanalytic tendencies have sexual insinuations that are critical in evaluating a true standard.
Certain theories pose a misguided belief that attachment theories have a limitation to the childhood times alone. These behaviors at times extend to adult life. Such are the times when a couple develop a lasting marriage and endear a lasting relationship. As such, such relationship actually may become stronger with time and only wane when a substitute emerges. However, they will not go away completely. Usher, 2008 is overt with the manner that the bond creates a psychoanalytic attachment to couples new in love.
The bond is a critical area as Bowlby explains in the latter stages of this article. The critical area of need for the attachment benefit that becomes necessary for the partner. According to Bowlby, the attachment becomes necessary at certain points. The points explained in the article include fatigue, strangeness to a place, frightening elements, unresponsive figures, as well as environments that may not be familiar. These areas are critical and require a common presence, actually, in certain cases, when the bond is created; the partner tends to stick close to the only help at that moment thanks to the bond. Also vital at this stage is the need to facilitate the correspondence of every bond in the household. That way, the partner and the adult figure can develop respect for each other without striking the correct nuance of inappropriate conduct.
The attachment boding gets a name of falling in love. Bowlby acknowledges that the paradigm is relative to the act of falling in love (1988). This can be a slow process or a fast process depending on the ground factors in the environment. In cases where the environment is conducive for fast relationship creation, the need wanes and the bond may suffer from external influence. The bond must not necessarily emerge from an adult to a child but can also emanate from an adult to an adult.
In conclusion, there are elements of disturbed cases of deviant attachment trends. These can occur at any age. While the author focuses on the children, retrieving the manner that they may become delinquent, the bond may have followed a different path that is deviant and quite unlike the expectations of the adult or child. Similarly, in marriage cases, when the attachment is ripe and takes a clear standard, there are various means that the environment becomes an influence in the bond. In such cases, the people are more likely to become withdrawn and detached and lead to divorces. While these are less talked about in the article, it emerges that from the principle of relationship, every factor is possible to enact the right environment for action. In any case, care is necessary to extract the right bond taking care not to accommodate discrepancies in the relationship that may lead to later fixations.
Reference
Bowlby, J. (1985) Conceptual framework. In: Attachment and loss volume 3. Loss, sadness and depression. London: Penguin.
Bowlby, J. (1988), A secure base. Clinical applications of attachment theory. London. Routledge.
Usher, S.F. (2008) What is this thing called love? A guide to psychoanalytic psychotherapy with couples. London. Routledge.
