Experiences with Loss & Death
Introduction
Whether you are an adult or child, death will inevitably come. Death is a controversial issue for all the citizens living in a particular society and it will always be that way for the next hundreds or even thousands of years. This unstoppable phenomenon will really come in everyone’s life; no one could really escape.
There are a lot of things and emotions that could take place when the topic being talked about is death. Whether it is a loved one or a stranger, there will always be some kind of weird feeling that sinks in whenever you see someone dying or died. It usually seems unexplainable why is that so but it definitely has something to do with these three emotions or feelings; sadness, sorrow and grief.
Rare are the times when people will actually feel glad or happy whenever someone had died. For that, it may be safe to conclude that death will always be accompanied by the three emotions that were mentioned a while ago.
Issues with Coping up
Perhaps one of the hardest parts of having lost someone dear to you is coping up and recovering from the deep pain that you are feeling. Actually, the same principle may be applied to all beings living here in earth today.
It is given that the “coping” part is easier said than done but encouraging words and a couple of pat on the shoulders are likely enough to comfort emotionally strong individuals; especially if they have already accepted the fact that everyone will surely pass away and the same thing actually goes for them; it’s just a matter of who goes first and who goes next. But what about the people who are soft when it comes it these things and the kids who are typically unaware of what’s really going on?
Child and Adult Perception about Death
When I was a kid, I was able to encounter death experiences. That was when my godmother died. I was so young back then and I almost had no idea what was going on. When I grew up, I realized that what I felt back when I was still a child was totally different from what I just felt when another family relative passed away almost a year ago.
Form this incident I was able to arrive at a realization that there is an absolute difference between a child and an adult’s perception about death. Of course, cognitive factors may have contributed here especially if the age and maturity will be given great completely significant focus; but when it comes to death, there will be no young or old because everyone is vulnerable.
Of course as I grew up I was able to encounter a series of death experiences accompanied with losses too but it was only lately that I realized how painful it is and how agonizing it is to have lost someone very dear to you. I felt as if I want to turn back time and reset everything so that I could at least put some things in order. To put things simpler, I lingered through the bargaining stage quite longer than I am supposed to.
Well what could you expect? I was a minor back then and even if I am already matured to understand words and phrases even if they pertain to the death of a loved one, I guess I am just not prepared to handle the feelings of tragedies of that level.
Death and Loss
Even the most vicious murderer would not be able to escape the pain brought about by death because as stated, it is like a universal principle that could be applied to all. Perhaps what’s important about these death experiences is that we learn how to realize that all things we could see, hear, touch and feel are not really permanent.
Sooner or later, either you, or those things will be turned into dust. It is just a matter of who goes first and who goes next, really. Fortunately, I was able to regain my composure and re-establish my thoughts and that is actually why I am still holding on right now, with my new life; a life where I know people around me will continue to disappear after each passing years and decades.
Even so, I think that maybe, this is God’s way of telling us that we really cannot be like Gods. We are merely mortals and we die every so often. No one could live forever, even with the most latest and advanced interventions in the medical field.
These thoughts are what I used for myself so that I could at least minimize the effects of Pain, agony, sorry and grieving. My experiences about death have naturally transformed my attitudes and perceptions about this world and everything in it; mostly in positive ways and I am actually thankful for that.
