Developing meaningful relationships within a community is important for community participation and important for emotional and physical well-being. By analyzing the process of building relationships, one can better understand proper communication methods and problem solving techniques.
Principles of Communication
Communication is key to developing meaningful relationships with groups within a community. By being able to identify the different ways we interact with each other we are able to better promote effective interpersonal communication ("Principles of effective," 2011). Using these common guidelines can be a stepping stone to a great relationship. One of the most basic principles is to treat others with respect. This means we are better able to use the energy we would spend putting down others or complaining to use in another form. Being understanding with loved ones and respectful of their beliefs is key. Difficulties with others are mere distractions blocking us from viewing the bigger picture.
It is hard to be a good listener if you are always interrupting other! Making a conscience effort to allow others to speak so we can listen and focus on what they are saying is important to learn. The ability to have a calm, orderly conversation is an invaluable tool. Being able to converse well with a loved one brings understanding and intimacy to a relationship.
We must take responsibly for our own actions, and accept others for theirs. Trying to change someone is rarely successful. The strongest relationships are built upon respect of who a person is. Learn to love them for who they are, trying to change them can cause them to feel inadequate or uncomfortable.
Do not volunteer for others ("Principles of effective," 2011). Everyone should have the right to make their own decisions in life. Trying to force someone to partake in activities they do not enjoy can lead to resentment. This statement also holds true when having a conversation. It is best not to project your thoughts on others. Using “I” in a conversation makes a more accurate statement ("Principles of effective," 2011). Conversations that are excessive in length are rarely productive, remember to let others speak and realize when the conversation becomes too long or one sided.
In relationships conflicts or concerns are sure to arise. The difference between a good relationship and a bad one can be determined by how you are able to communicate and solve these issues. When speaking to our partners never challenge the person, just the behavior ("Principles of effective," 2011). Try to make the issue into a learning experience not a battle. Focus on positives and give solutions to the negatives.
Barriers to Relationships
Relationship building can sometimes be hit with a road block. Feelings and opinions can be different from one another and there are many barriers that influence the flow of communication (Inanova, 1999). One of these barriers is a physical one. These can include a lack of personal proximity to the one you wish to communicate with (Inanova, 1999). Being far away with no means to contact them would be an example. A person that leaves the room and shuts the door may be an example of an immediate physical barrier. Remember that psychical barriers can also produce emotional barriers. Being available is import aspect in a relationship. Stay in contact with the groups you wish to build relationships with by being in their proximity and showing interest in their lives.
Emotional barriers are often motivated by fear (Inanova, 1999). This may be from feeling like you don’t fit in or cultural misunderstandings. Lessons of fear and mistrust learned through past experiences can block the ability to communicate. Even more important than being psychically available is being emotionally available.
Cultural barriers can sometimes impede on a relationship. Different cultures view the world in different ways. Cultural influences impact a person’s way of thought and communication (Thompson, 2010). One has to be accepting of other cultures in order to communicate effectively. Of course different languages are also a barrier. If one does not know the language being spoken of course it is difficult to communicate! Social anxiety, withdrawal, and avoidance can also inhibit the process. Determine what barriers most affect your relationships and work on improving them!
In conclusion, there may be many barriers faced when building relationships such as communication or cultural misunderstandings. However if one is willing to engage others and become understanding of their life and style of communication relationships can be long lasting.
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