Essay On Love And Marriage In Ibsen's A Doll's House

In Henrik Ibsen's A Doll's House, a doomed marriage (the marriage of Nora and Torvald) comes apart both from the inside and outside, thanks to the machinations of Nils Krogstad. However, the two couples (Nora/Torvald, Nils/his lover Christine) demonstrate opposing perspectives on love. Nora serves the cultural function of the battered woman who finds new purpose in her life, Torvald the insecure man attempting to control his wife to maintain power in his own life. Meanwhile, Nils is the heartless, greedy beast who is soothed by Christine's love for him; while they are brought together, Nora and Torvald are torn apart by their increasing inability to relate to one another. Universal symbols are also used in the play to demonstrate images and ideas that resonate with the themes of love, helplessness and oppression within the family unit that are at the heart of this work.
The titling of the play as “A Doll’s House” is significant, as Nora is kept like a doll, not really allowed to have a life of her own or any sense of self-respect. She is stuck in this fragile, clean home that is offered as a status symbol for Torvald, Nora being just another piece of his property. Nora's perspective on love is (righteously) selfish, as she wants to be treated with respect and agency. Like a doll, Torvald treats her like he owns her, ordering her around and making her do things without any consideration to her wants and needs. Describing their marriage as a doll’s house is very apt as well; it is something that looks nice to the eye and seems pleasing, but is ultimately hollow and lifeless:
Torvald's perspective on love is through ownership; he consistently uses nicknames and pet names for Nora, as if to further dehumanize her by calling her a singing bird or a sky-lark. At the same time, when Nora uses them back at Torvald, it can be seen as a shift in power, where Nora attempts to assert herself. At the same time, this power is never permanent, and she is forced to maintain the “child-wife” persona she is asked to portray: "there can be no freedom or beauty about a home life that depends on borrowing and debt" (Torvald 2). With this constant push and pull of Torvald and Nora, the audience sees the archetypes clashing as they are meant to - the oppressive wife attempting to find her own identity outside of the domineering husband, whose irresponsibility is supported by society's tacit agreement with him.
Nils Krogstad, the antagonist of A Doll's House, is a mean, cruel and petty individual, though he is made more sympathetic by his revealed backstory with Christine - “Even money-lenders, hacks, well, a man like me, can have a little of what you call feeling, you know" (Ibsen). This inner pain, which causes him to lash out at others, is due to Christine's rejection of him in the past: "When I lost you it was as if all the solid ground went from under my feet. Look at me now - I am a shipwrecked man clinging to a bit of wreckage" (Nils 52). However, this is revealed to not just be the result of not wanting to be with him, but from her need to provide for her family; to that end, Christine married a man with money. This left Nils heartbroken, and this is stated as potentially causing his cruel attitude; however, Christine still had feelings for him. Both characters seem to be trapped by society, prevented from expressing their love by financial and political factors: "I have learned to act prudently. Life and hard, bitter necessity have taught me that" (Christine 52).
In the end, however, the play is about Nora's own dissatisfaction with her life and love, which is shown through copious use of symbolism. Setting the play entirely within the house makes Nora’s suffocating life all the more ubiquitous and omnipresent, as both Nora and the audience are never rid of the house that she has to keep up and be trapped in. All of the elaborate furnishings and trappings give the illusion of a fulfilling, prosperous life, when in fact Nora is completely miserable and hates being under her husband’s thumb. The immaculate nature of the living room is indicative of the illusion Torvald wants to portray that his life and his marriage is perfect, and Nora is simply expected to go along with it.
There are two very significant symbols in this play, both of them related to holidays or landmarks. The Christmas tree is just like Nora is supposed to be in the marriage; pretty, decorative, and without movement or opinion. It is dolled up just like everything else in this house, and Torvald treats both Nora and the tree the same way. The state of the Christmas tree also reflects Nora’s mood, as it gets more offset and dirtier as Nora becomes more unhinged and fed up with what has been happening, showing that Nora as a character has been carrying for years a secret and a burden that would have decimated someone who had a stronger constitution.
Another symbol is New Year’s Day, which takes place not long after Christmas. It symbolizes a new beginning, particularly when Nora decides to leave Torvald. They can make a clean break at this universally recognized date for restructuring of one’s life, making it especially poignant and important that they break up at that moment: "I realized that for eight years I'd been living here with a strange man and that I'd borne him three children. Oh, I can't bear to think of it - I could tear myself to little pieces!" (Nora 68). It further brings home the consequences and gravity of Nora’s decision to the audience, as they feel a greater sense of permanence to this decision.
One of the biggest themes to be found in this play is that of women’s roles and rights in the late 19th century; women were expected to sacrifice any semblance of individualism or autonomy in favor of supporting their husband, who was the real power in the family. Nora states that “thousands of women have” had to sacrifice their integrity to stand by a man that they did not necessarily love. Mrs. Linde, for example, could have married Krogstad, as she loved him. However, since he did not have any money, it would not have been socially acceptable to marry him, and so she went for someone who was more well off financially. Despite all of this, these women often consider themselves fortunate, because at least they found a man to take care of them, at the expense of their own individuality. According to society’s rules, there was no way for Nora to exert her dominance over Torvald, though she obviously wanted to, as she knows more about the business than he does and could run it more effectively. She must sacrifice her assertiveness in order to play the doll to the doll master. She also makes the controversial choice to abandon her children, sacrificing her ability to raise them. However, she does so with good reason, as she believes that she is incapable of raising the children in that sort of environment, and that it would do more harm than good to them. Instead, she opts to have the more well-equipped nanny look after the children. Nora begins to be incredibly jaded by the conduct of men, from what she has seen of both Torvald and Krogstad, who are both ineffectual but boorish characters who bluster about with no real bite behind them. At the same time, she would even sacrifice herself rather than allow Torvald to be blamed for what she did (forging his name to a document in order to get a loan from Krogstad). At the same time, she realizes that Torvald would not do the same for her, as his honor would need to remain stubbornly intact. In A Doll’s House, the audience sees a portrait of a woman kept against her will by a patriarchal society that will not trust her with decisions and freedoms, even when the men prove themselves to be bad at those same decisions. We also see this one particular woman refuse to sacrifice any longer, cutting her losses and moving on in her search for happiness, leaving her husband and children behind. While this may seem like a selfish act on the outside, we see Nora taking care of the family dutifully and taking dramatic measures to deal with Torvald’s problems, like taking a dangerous loan to settle his debt. Nora escapes from Torvald's possessive view of women and love. Meanwhile, Nils and Christine wish to be together, but are torn apart by circumstances; their love burns brightly for each other in each other's absence, while Nora and Torvald are torn apart by their conflicting needs and their proximity.