Essay On The Influence Of A Father On His Child

Family has always been the core value in a human’s life. Parents should be the ones to teach their children the difference between right and wrong giving them life lessons and being an example to follow. Family relations and values have always had a strong impact on child’s behavior and have always formed his vision of the world. Unfortunately, there are so many dysfunctional families, where children suffer from parental violence every day. This problem is quite relevant nowadays and the solution must be found as fast as possible. It’s important to notice, that many of us do not understand a simple truth: a child loves his parent no matter what.
Every living creature, when being born, no matter, if it’s a nestling hatched from an egg or a human baby, sees his mother first. That is the moment, when a child realizes, who his parents are. That is the moment, when he starts loving them. That is the second, when a child receives the devotion to the family, love and care for his parents, the respect for his mom and dad. It is just another trick by Mother Nature, I guess.
As I’ve stated earlier, the sad statistic is showing us that the number of dysfunctional families is increasing nowadays. These families have troubles regarding their behavior and communication between their members. To my mind, parents play the key part in the formation of relationships within the family. They are the most valuable examples for their children to follow, so much depends on the relations between them too.
I love my parents, furthermore, I feel strong devotion and care for my family. Why is it so? I simply don’t know, I can only guess. But I strongly believe that my parents were the ones, who taught me these simple truths. Or it’s, again, Mother Nature teaching us to stay close with those, who’ve brought us to life.
Pure and innocent child loves his parents with all his heart. Every day he tries to share his feelings, so the whole world will notice his devotion and care. The parents’ part is to notice these little signs. A loving child is always happy to see his mom or dad, he cherishes every moment spent together, and moreover, he gathers all the great family memories from the childhood. It is very sad, that so many parents don’t simply pay enough attention to these little things.
A perfect example of child’s devotion can be found in James Joyce’s short story “Eveline”. Here the reader sees a young nineteen year old woman, whose life was a rather difficult one too. She struggled hard from the very childhood. Sitting by the window, she tried to make a vital decision. Her terrible life was about to change, she could escape with her beloved young man and live happily in Buenos Ayres. Eveline could leave all the terrible memories here and just sail away with him.
This girl went through a lot: her father has left a deep scar on her soul, by threating her brothers, his wife, and also herself. He would not beat her, but her brothers could not escape his violence. She had to learn the taste of adulthood too early: Eveline was responsible for cooking and household keeping.
Her mother died, when she was still a little girl. With her last words she was asking the daughter to take care of the family and her father, as long as she only could. She kept the promise for a long time, though it was not easy at all. The girl had to decide for herself, if she was ready to leave everything she got used to and everyone she knows. She even wrote two letters: one was for her father and another one for the elder brother. These envelopes were her way to say the last words of good bye to them both.
On the other hand, she felt the devotion and could not leave her dad. She felt like he deeply needed her. Despite his anger and hatred, she still could see something good in him. Moreover, she was sure that he was going to miss her. Eveline clearly understood that he was getting old and felt responsibility. She tried to recall some of her childhood memories, about the times when her father used to take care of her and when they used to have fun together. Eventually, she decides to stay home, she simply can’t go.
Why can’t she leave this place filled with hatred and pane? Why does she have to stay? This is just another example of child’s way to express his love, devotion and care for the one, who has brought him to life. Yes, Eveline is not a child anymore: she is nineteen and has quite an experience as for her age. But we all must confess, no matter how old we are, we will always stay kids inside, we will always stay kids for our parents as well. Every human is inherent to cling to the good memories. In tough times they can help lighten the load and brighten the moment. So did Eveline. She clung to these bright childhood memories, when they used to have fun together and everything was just fine. These moments were holding her home. Hope and memories were not letting her go. Not being able to realize that, she still loved her father and could not leave him in the lurch.
My family is not perfect, I clearly understand that. As a child I value and love my parents, no matter what. Furthermore, they are also my teachers: every day is a new lesson they give, moreover, they are also the example to follow. My parents have taught me right from wrong. Being highly involved in my life they have taught me responsibility. I feel a deep devotion and understand that, being a member of my family, I have some obligations as well. One day they will be old and I am the one, who will take care of them, just as they did, when I was just a baby.
My father is a tough man too. His character can be described as a rough one. Being a quick-tempered person, it is pretty easy for him to suddenly snap at you for nothing. One moment you see him smiling at you and everything seems to be quite fine, but in a minute something might irritate him, provoking a conflict out of nothing. One moment he drinks his coffee with a big smile on his face, and in a minute he might notice that his favorite TV show was canceled and he rapidly loses his temper. I understand that he works hard every single day and his nerves are often under a big amount of pressure, which explains why he is always so tired. But, unlike Eveline’s father, my dad never threatens me; instead, he does his best to make my living better. More importantly, he shares his experience with me, so that I have an opportunity to learn from his mistakes.
I had a happy childhood filled with great family memories and I am very thankful for that. I was blessed to have great and caring parents, who took their time to teach me everything they know. As appose to Eveline’s story my parents were responsible for me. They could never leave me alone at the hard times. Of course, there were some problems, as raising children can never be easy. Sometimes my parents would do mistakes and that would hurt me and even leave scars. But I’ve always remembered that they love me no matter what and everything they do is for my best.
We all must realize a simple truth: parents are always responsible for everything regarding their family and their kids. If there are any problems, they are chargeable, everything is on their conscience. Only parents have the strongest impact on their children’s lives and they are the examples for them to follow. I can only hope that in the nearest future the number of dysfunctional families will descent to its’ lowest point, creating the perfect society. To achieve this result, we need to start small: we need to start from our families. If everyone will pay enough attention to this problem, this goal will become achievable in the nearest future.