Article Review
Introduction
The article reappraises the significance of quality and reliable communication among married couples. Similarly, it highlights the causes of poor marriage, attributing the core cause to poor or lack of proficient communication among married couples. On the other hand, this paper reviews, other indispensable facets that are extremely essential in building relationships and long lasting marriages, and they encompass, aspects like self-disclosure, and gender similarities in communication.
Article Summary
The article emphasizes on a research work, done by Orbuch, a research scientist at the University of Michigan, who insists on a consistent and quality communication, but not quantity of communication. In tandem to this, there is a description of quality communication, together with several illustrations to affirm it. Further, there is a connection between happy marriages and sharing of feelings, doubts and perceptions, and a confirmation that romantic relationships commence with a lot of sharing and excitement. In light with this, paying attention to one's partner, and asking questions through the ten-minute rule, is the key remedy to dwindling relationships.
Discussion
The key facet to a strong relationship or marriages is quality communication, and this is upheld in the article, with reference to self-disclosure, the most essential tool in communication, characterized by sharing of pertinent details, personal feelings, doubts, and perception. This is analogous to Duck (2007), affirmation that self-disclosure contributes to quality mental health, and the desire to build up a loving relationship, through opening out. Further, Duck (2007) still attests that active management of self-disclosure generates all sorts of actions that project one as open in order to obey social norms of mutual dependency and civility, to portray oneself, to shape up a relationship, and create a level of comfort within oneself. In addition to this, more information about others, especially spouses can be acquired, and this can be a veritable propellant towards a reliable and perfect relationship.
Affective affirmation, behavior that makes a partner in a relationship feel loved, and cared for, is a factor that contributes to effective communication, and it depicts the similarity in gender communication. In light with this, men tend to require more gesture affirmation than women do, since women are more conversant and comfortable with verbal affirmation. This corresponds to Coleman and Coleman (2010) assertion that affective affirmation measures how much each partner’s interest is shared in prospects to gender, and it reflects the savoring of love, under which one can communicate to one’s partner. Similarly, verbal affirmation is decidedly essential, especially to women, as it heightens the level of intimacy, communication, and strength in relationship. Thence, it becomes exceedingly beneficial to take into consideration affective affirmation, since each gender is particularly crucial in enhancing proficient communication.
Conclusion
Concisely, the article is well defined and relevant in the provision of factors that may improve communication in a relationship. Moreover, it is well elaborate, and it can be used for public reading. Besides, the ideas are well arranged, and it is with clear conscious that every person, and gender can fit in the generalization, since it is the utmost way, a fascinating communication can be achieved.
References
Coleman, J. & Coleman, D. (2010). Discovering Your Amazing Marriage. Minneapolis, MN: Seraphina Press.
Duck, S. (2007). Human Relationships. London: SAGE Publications Ltd.
Schoenberg, N. (2011). Can We Talk? Researcher Talks about the Role of Communication in Marriages. Retrieved from http://proquest.umi.com/pqdweb?did=2260839481&sid=1&Fmt=3&clientId=74379&RQT=309&VName=PQD
