I live in the same house with my brother. We have been living in Canada for more than three (3) years as well as two (2) years in Saint John. Despite the fact that I love my brother and spend more time with him, I found him disorganized in relation to domestic chores. He heavily relies on me to perform all the domestic chores. This is a great challenge to me because at times I arrive home late and tired and find the living room very disorganized. I am looking for a good avenue and appropriate time to discuss this issue with him because it really affects my work and me.
Listen Effectively
This problem should be resolved by involving critical thinking. It is therefore important to choose the most appropriate time to have this discussion may be after having a meal. It is advisable to request him to have his time for a brief discussion regarding this matter. Eye contact throughout the discussion will help detect or note any changes in his mood. This will therefore ensure that that chance of conflicts or chaos in the discussion is minimal. It is therefore a combination of both the suitable time and approach of the discussion that will help solve this issue through dialogue. Attention is of essence in order to avoid missing any points or response from him.
Describe your position
My eye position is of importance in the discussion in order to reduce chances of staring at him because this may affect his mood and terminate the whole discussion. I should therefore maintain a relaxed mood throughout the conversation to reduce tension. I should ask him to suggest the chores that he should help me solve but there is no need to rush into conclusions. It is advisable to give him chance to decide what he should help you do in the house. I should be attentive to his response or feedback in order to ensure clarity in the discussion. His complains needs attention in order to in order to give him chance to express his views and opinions regarding this issue. Interruption needs careful handling in order to avoid conflict of interest.
Workable solution
I should therefore ask him for consideration on the workload that I handle and appeal to his help in order to relieve me of some duties or house chores. I should appeal to him to attend to his personal belongings leaving the rest to me. I may also suggest the division of duties and responsibilities in performing the house chores and responsibilities. The importance of neatness should an important point to discuss and emphasize in order to convince him that it is worth living in an orderly and clean environment. During this discussion, I should moderate my speech in order to avoid chances of affecting his mood in order to communicate this issue in the most efficient and effective manner. It is also advisable to monitor his mood using body movements and gestures in order to ensure the smooth flow of the conversation. The posture may also help in determining whether he is comfortable with the discussion. I must be keen on the nonverbal cues because they are useful in communicating many aspects of the discussion. This will help to ensure flow smooth of the conversion between us. It is therefore advisable to ensure effective and efficient communication of the sensitive issue with the easiest way possible.
