Introduction
Love alone is a complex thing. Now, pair it with marriage, then that would double the complication. This is what most people who have been married or who have been in love in the past when you ask them about the things that happened to their marriage. Of course, the love and marriage stories can never be a one-sided one. There are people whom when you interview will respond positively and there will also be people who will respond the other way. Most of the time, people’s perception about love and marriage is based on their experience.
The better their experiences being in love and married, chances are they will look at these two things positively. The opposite then happens when the related experiences are bad. So, all usually boils down to the question “how will an individual or a couple be able to succeed in loving each other and in their marriage life”.
It is not uncommon for couples especially the ones who are from the Y generation to fail on their conquest for eternal peace, love, joy and marriage. Disappointments and frustrations are usually common signs that an individual is suffering from a major distress; which more often than not involves love.
Living to Love and to Marry
There are several phases of life and love and marriage is just one of those phases. Before we are even born, we are all unconscious about the things that are happening around us. A few weeks or even months after we are born, nothing has actually changed, we are still unaware of our surroundings but we could already feel the simplest things that a human could ever feel. After a few years, we turn into a child and after a few years of being a child, we turn into teenagers and adolescents until we reach the point of love and marriage.
All people are capable to love. Even the cruelest people on this planet now and in the past have someone whom they really love and care for. In this phase of life however, it is kind of different. It’s still love but the difference comes when we talk about intention. Have you ever asked yourself why you love your family? Your friends? There are a lot of possible reasons but most people would really tend to say “I don’t know” followed by “I just love them” to such statements. This is what you call instinct. Humans, in order to interact, have a form of complex emotion, for me at least, called love. Without love, this world would be full of hatred, anger, guilt and chaos.
In our current society, love has to be symbolized and most of the time, marriage is the one thing that people use to signify love. If you are going to travel to almost all countries, you will realize how a lot of people value love and marriage. Marriage is the act of giving bows to each other (a couple); promising that you will never leave each other no matter what challenges may come.
This phase of one’s life is an inevitable one. Being a kid up to this point is really inevitable because at some point in your life (it could be premature or delayed), you will be able to experience the feeling of wanting to be with someone else forever. Some say that its love while some would address it as a different thing. Love and marriage is like a level up for adolescence because they should be able to have the capacity to raise their own family and stop being dependent on other people just like when they were kids. However, this may be a matter of discussion for other cultures which are characterized by strong family ties.
Love and marriage is an important part of your life. It’s actually like a prerequisite that you need to experience before you could go on to the next phase of your life. Try to imagine when you were a kid, roaming the streets freely, when you were a college student looking for the perfect and most loving person to be with forever. These things are all essential for one’s growth and development.
Love and marriage could also cause small misunderstandings between a two married individuals. Such bad practices should indeed be prevented because there is a chance it may progress to violence—another uncommon thing in the societal love and marriage perception today. What couples could do to prevent that from happening is to try to realize how good it could be felt to love and to be loved back. Of course, that’s the most rewarding feeling of all and it has something to do with marriage as well—a lot actually. As long as there is love, there could still be a chance that a couple will be able to work out on and fix their marriage. Divorce and annulments are two most common issues being debated about by scholars for the last couple of years because of their possible effects to the people’s perception to love and marriage. As long as we know how we could easily divorce with anyone, people will always believe that wrecking marriages with a divorce or an annulment procedure will always be the answer where in fact it is not.
