Core values are the important beliefs of a person. Core values are what helps people to live their lives on a daily basis. They guide a person’s behaviour and action. People can choose to live by a number core values. They include, loyal, reliable, dependable honest, humorous, fun-loving, adventurous, just to mention a few.
Counselling
Counselling is termed as a therapy where a person can talk about his or her problems and how they feel in a more confidential environment with a counsellor. People can share their emotions and feelings with someone who can listen to them and put herself or himself in their shoes.
Role of a counsellor
A counsellor is a trained professional who helps people cope easily with their problems or issues. A counsellor is supposed to enable the client to explore how they feel and talk about them in an open and free setting. The counsellor is not supposed to judge a client and should not be emotionally involved with the client. They should encourage their clients to face the fears in their lives. A counsellor should help the client to make their own choices that will lead them into making positive changes in their lives.
Qualities of a good counsellor
A counsellor should have the following qualities, patience, observant, a good listener, welcoming, and confidential, knowledgeable, personal integrity and must also have empathy with the client.
Goals of a counselling process
In the counselling process, the counsellor is supposed to come up with goals to guide him or her through the counselling process. The goal includes; coming up with an initial interview with the client to develop a hypothesis, forming a trusting relationship with the client, forming an interaction between information and problem definition given by the client, helping the client to set and plan goals to promote change and be able to end an interview stating the summary of the important information gathered.
Impacts of philosophy on attitude and goals of a counsellor
As a counsellor, you will face ethnical issues involving your values and that of the client. Your values may conflict with that of the client. Crucial measures are supposed to be taken for the counsellor to be able to persuade the client to do the right thing without making them feel uncomfortable. Religion values of a counsellor may also collide with that of the client. The counsellor is supposed to know the values practised by the client’s religion so that he or she can be able come to an understanding with the client on changing for the better.
Birth Order
Birth order is the way sibling follow each other by age. Many psychologists believe that a child’s behaviour and personality are determined by their birth order(Leman, 1998). It can leave an impression on a person’s way of life. The birth order captures the firstborn, middle born, youngest, an only child and twins. Factors such as parenting, genetics and also home setting can affect a child’s personality or behaviour(Krohn, 2000)
The firstborn child
First born children are believed to be conservative, aggressive, organise serious, high in self-esteem just to mention a few. First born children learn about an aspect of power at a very tender age. It can be shown in their ability to protect, lead and help others. At some point, the first born may come to feel unloved when his or her parents have another baby. It may lead to competition among the siblings and it can result to sibling rivalry. Parents tend to put the first born child under much pressure and give him or her lot of responsibility so as to make them succeed in life. It may in turn make the first born child be ambitious.
First born children are usually easy to spot. They are normally nicely dressed and well behaved. It can be because they want to be good role models to their younger siblings. They are afraid to fail because their younger siblings look up to them and also because they feel the need to impress their parents. They also tend to be goal-oriented. Most of the first born children have a love for the sport. They may engage themselves in different games and athletics.
Parenting also dictates the first born child’s behaviour. All parents would like their children to succeed. Parents want their first born children to be successful in order to role models in the family. They will teach them how to be responsible and how to be a good example to their younger siblings.
References
Krohn, K. (2000). Everything You Nrrd To Know About Birth Order. New York City: The Rosen Publishing Group.
Leman, K. (1998). The Birth Order Book: Why Are You The Way YOU Are. Grand Rapids: Revell.
