According to Firestone (2013), our style of attachment influences everything from our accomplice determination to how well our connections advancement to, unfortunately, how they end. That is the reason perceiving our connection example can help us comprehend our qualities and vulnerabilities in a relationship. An attachment example is built up in early adolescence attachments and keeps on working as a working model for attachments in adulthood.
After taking a survey I have discovered, that my general attachment style is preoccupied. According to the survey, I have passed the test and answered questions, during which it was estimated that it displays the result of my personal attachment style. So, according to the survey my personal attachment style with respect to a partner and a friend is secure. My personal style attachment in relation to the father is fearfull, unlike secure attachment with respect to a partner for romantic relationships and a friend. My personal attachment style in relation to my mother is not applicable due to the fact, that I have avoided answering questions on this theme. According to the survey results, it becomes clear in what respects I feel secure, and in which I do not. Thus I can summarize, that in respect to a a relationship domain with a partner and a friend I feel comfortable depending on them and I also feel comfortable, when this people rely on me. Moreover, I feel unconcerned about whether my parner or my friend trully cares of me. The other result, regarding the relationship domain with my father, shows that I am in a fearfull-avoident position in relation to him. This is so due to the fact that he is not in place emotionally, when this is nessecary most of all and that is why I feel uncomfortable and try to avoid relying on him.
As I have mentioned earlier, by taking the survey, I have discovered that my general attachment style is preoccupied. According to Rodriguez & Ritchie (?) the preoccupied grown-ups likewise question that different grown-ups will give alleviation from anxiety furthermore, tension. They contrast from pretentious grown-ups in that the preoccupied grown-ups concentrate on the upsetting occasion and frame subordinate relationship between coping styles and adult attachment styles relationships with the very individuals who they feel can't be depended upon frequently showing the same sticking conduct found in babies (p.p. 132-133).
In my opinion, the results provided by the survey are pretty accurate, because because they reflect the real state of things, and my real attitude to the people, in particular those which were discussed earlier. While taking this survey, I have tried as accurately as possible to answer the questions, because I am interested myself in getting accurate results. Nevertheless, in the results, which were obtained by me it is indicated that in order to prevent the symbols from overlapping in the graph, the survey administration has added “a tiny bit of noise to each value”.
All in all, I can conclude, that my attachment has formed and shaped my development as an adult for a whole list of certain reasons. First of all, the most important reason why my attachment now wears status “preoccupied” are the parents. According to Rodriguez & Ritchie (?) individual's attachment to his essential guardian assumes a vast part. Reliable fact is that any relation to an object, living being is laid at an early age. Thus, what parents teach us, including the reflection with respect to the other, is entirely their responsibility.
References
Firestone, L. (2013) How Your Attachment Style Impacts Your Relationship. What is your
attachment style? Web. 26 Apr, 2016. Retrieved from:
www.psychologytoday.com/blog/compassion-matters/201307/how-your-attachment-style-impacts-your-relationship
Relationship Attachment Style Test. Web Test. Retrieved from:
psychologytoday.tests.psychtests.com/take_test.php?idRegTest=3265
Rodriguez, P.D., Ritchie, L. K., (n.d.) Relationship Between Coping Styles and Adult
Attachment Styles. Psychology. Indiana University South Bend.
