Introduction
Marriage and sex are two inseparable things. However, it is also important to note that sexual satisfaction or fulfillment is an important pillar of a happy marriage life.
Sex plays a major role in bonding and reinforcing affection between couples. This means that we can all come into consensus that sex is a sensitive issue between couples and hence need for understanding both your partners, personal sexual attributes .
Chapter six of the book “Marriages and Families- Intimacy, Diversity, and Strengths” by David H. Olson, John Detrain and Linda skogrand, seventh edition, points out clearly that factors such as mind-set towards sex, level of sexual interest, amount of affection , openness on matters pertaining to sex, attractiveness and sexual behaviors influence sexual life between partners.
The impacts of these factors vary from one person to another. For instance, According to a survey carried out nationally, happily married couples appeared to be more pleased with the affection they get from their partners with less regard on the level of their partners sexual interest as opposed to the unhappily married couples. According to the survey, these kind of couples proved to be more sexually satisfied.
Sexual therapists advice that couples with sexual problems should not rush to sex but first enjoy their partners’ company and touch. They point out that problems such as early orgasm or ejaculation can be conquered by two methods, that is, masturbation and exploration. Masturbation majorly helps in reducing orgasmic problems in women as well as ejaculatory control in men. Self stimulation can assist a woman to bring her man to orgasm in best way. In men it can help in delaying ejaculation and hence a long time of sexual pleasure.
Sexual therapist have also prescribed some behavioral exercises such as sensate focus(giving each other sexual pleasure without expecting the same in return).This enables someone to know which touches bring joy to your partner. The stop and go technique which teaches how to control ejaculation and the squeeze technique. This technique aims at resolving the problem of premature ejaculation.
All in all, sex is meant for mutual enjoyment between partners and hence endeavoring to provide maximum pleasure and satisfaction to your partner is not an option. According to this chapter, this can only happen by identifying sexual weaknesses and working on them.
