In the world today, it is hard to be who you are and still work toward being popular with your peers and people in general. However, there are some people who do not wish to ignore who they are because it is the cornerstone of their very existence. Interesting enough, there are some that agree that homosexuality is a part of life, and there are others who look at it like it is an abomination. The people who look at homosexuality like it is an abomination are the real monsters because homosexuals have the same rights, and feelings like everyone else. The sad part is that the new generation is being brought up to believe that homosexuals are disgusting, liberal degenerates who chose to be homosexual instead of being born that way. Now, a new problem has surfaced, and the problem is that children who have gay parents are not accepting of their gay parents' lifestyle because the child feels it interferes with their social standing and popularity. Children and preteens are often say things like "I would be very upset if one of my parents came out of the closet and get into a gay or lesbian relationship". These kids feel like it is so bad that their parents are with another person of the same sex. Well, I disagree with that because just because you have gay parents, does not mean that you are being loved any less. Those kids should ask themselves “if I prick my homosexual mom or dad, will they not bleed, if I turn my back to my gay parent, will they not feel isolated and sad?” According to the Los Angeles Times of 2006, it states "no definitive evidence exists to settle the debate about whether children who are raised by gay or lesbian parents develop differently". (The Bump) Which furthers my disagreement about kids being upset about their homosexual parents, the kids still grow up learning 2+2=4 and that peanut butter and jelly is a healthy snack; that doesn't change. Another thing about having homosexual parents is that the child is never without an answer on how to approach that a situation if they were attracted to a homosexual, having gay parents does not make a child’s life miserable; it is not meant to.
Another reason I disagree with children turning their backs, and being upset with their gay parents are because the kids is acting like this is going to change their lives for the worse. Kids need to develop the understanding that parents are just as human as the kids are especially when it comes to being happy. What some kids do not understand is that their gay parents have needs. If the gay parent in question were not getting those needs met through someone of the opposite sex then they had to find another way of getting those needs met while finding their own bit of happiness. At the end of the day, it should be about being happy and not who you should be forced to stay with because you have kids by that person. According to stonewall publications the following has been stated "Gay men, lesbians and bisexual people have been parents for a long time" (Stonewall). To me is that since gay people have been parents for ages, why are so many people trying to rain on their parade like they do not have the right to be because they are gay? Kids are sometimes saying things like "ah great; the homo is coming to pick me up". That is just derogatory, and stupid of the kid to say because their parent did not choose to be gay. This is a side of them that they spent a lot of time trying to fight, and hide from everyone around them. Another thing most kids do not understand is that their gay parent is simply looking for some understanding and love, not complication and isolation. The problem with kids these days is that they are not being brought up to be open-minded, caring and considerate to others. Instead, the kids are learning to be monsters and bullies who only care about what should be normal and what should be destroyed if it is not. It is a sad day when the gay parents' kids grow up being more morally responsible than their counterparts with straight parents. Kids of gay parents are not even treated like people because their lead parent is going to bed with another person of the same sex. It is just unfair how these kids will talk badly about their gay parents openly yet treat them like human beings when they need something. Sad
Another reason I disagree with children being upset about their parents coming out of the closet, and entering a gay or lesbian relationship is because the parent has the right to be happy. Case in point, a woman is with a man she has three practically grown children by and the man treats her like garbage. The woman whose best friend has had a crush on her for years, finally tells the married woman how she feels. The woman with the 3 kids chose to be happy than miserable so she chose to be with her best friend/lover, so she leaves her husband. Outside sources will state that children are the ones who suffer because of their parents’ inability to "make it work". According to Michael Kimmel's prognosis on cultural dynamics, he says this about cultural silence "People keep silence because of fear of being punished not ascribing to normativity"(Kimmel 2008). What I disagree with about the aforementioned quote is that it is saying that in order to keep from being ostracized or isolated or even the town pariah then you should deny who you are, and keep it a secret from everyone you know lest you incur the town's ignorant and unjustified wrath. That is wrong for so many reasons because no parents should hide who they are from their children and the town because the town is too close-minded to accept gay people let alone gay parents. The issue here is acceptance, is it wrong for gay parents to have the same rights that non-gay parents have, is it wrong to say that gay parents should put their lives and happiness on hold to live a life that they were not happy about in the first place? Some would say yes, well I say no. Gay parents are at the forefront of reforming this close-minded society, and they should because there are so many people who are forced into hiding in the ruins that is today's world because of all of the hypocrisy and stupidity of the masses. It's okay to think what you want, but when you start trampling on other people's rights, gay parents' rights then you have gone too far. Gay parents are more about trying to establish a real family connection with their kids versus straight parents who are only together for the child.
"I would be upset if one of my parents were to come out of the closet and get into a gay and lesbian relationship. I disagree with this statement because it is just not the norm anymore for people to remain in the closet about who they are. I found out recently that a friend of mine was gay; it did shock me when I found out because this was the same guy that I went to college with, and the same guy whom I was telling how to deal with the 40 women that he was dealing with at different times. When I found out he was gay, I was like wow. But, he is still my friend today, and I never once treated him differently because he was gay or distanced myself from him because of his homosexuality. I still look at him like he is the same guy that I went to college with, no more or less. I have always been very open-minded about homosexuality because I was always raised to treat people who have different lifestyles than you as equals. Just because I am straight, and my friend is gay, does not mean that we do not bleed the same blood when we get a shot or get pricked. The idea that a gay parent is to never have children is flat out preposterous because the masses feel it is unnatural, and it fosters an unsafe home environment for the child or children. What makes this a more disagreeable situation is that bisexuals are being picked out, and spat on for wanting to have children of their own. Bisexual are often told that they should either choose to be straight, or just play with someone else's kid because having children should not be on their agenda. Bisexuals are often viewed as gay parents, but do not come under as much scrutiny or fierce verbal hailstorms as gay parents do. According to the Los Angeles Times by Emily Alpert, she states "This is the first group where I can say I'm bi, and no one will judge me" (Alpert, pg.2) So the question is, why is it that a gay parent cannot get that respect? The reason, we are all but being taught that sexual tolerance is everything but right except for when it is a man and a woman; the norm. That is the reason so many people are coming out of the closet because they are not afraid to be who they are.
The final reason I disagree with the statement "I would be very upset if one of my parents were to come out of the closet and get into a gay or lesbian relationship" is because being gay is not a bad thing. Since time immemorial, mankind has always understood the concept of heaven and hell. Most people understand that being gay meant you go to hell automatically, and all who were would be cast out. Kids who are the product of gay parents should be more than willing to stand by their gay parents because as the saying goes, you only have two parents who love you unconditionally; so why is it so hard to stand by your gay parents when they need you to understand them? Some would answer that it is easier not to. Loving parents are a valuable commodity because not everyone gets to wake up to loving parents who treat them like human beings instead of unwanted mistakes. There are some parents, straight parents today who could not give a rat's behind about their kids and where they end up. According to John Baum, he states, "For children who express gender in a way others consider inconsistent, this plays out as the taunts on the schoolyard, enforced isolation by peers, hurtful words and lack of understanding from the adults surrounding them" (Baum, pg.34) Some kids keep their gay parents a secret. The reason is because of the very aforementioned fears that were previously quoted. It is wrong for kids to behave this way because the gay parent probably already face a barrage of isolation, and silent treatments from people; who need that from their own kids? If one of my parents were gay, I would stand by them no matter what, and I would face off with anyone who made fun of them because this is another human being's feelings. We have no right to stomp all over them because we choose to not understand their feelings, and what is going on in their mind. Gay parents are not an abomination to human society; they are the gods of society and close-minded people are the patron saint of fools. As long as there are gay people then there will be gay parents, as it should be and you know what, that is the norm.
Works Cited Page
Malcolm, M. (2014). Does gay parenting affect children differently?. Retrieved from http://preschooler.thebump.com/gay-parenting-affect-children-differently-3636.html
Families and parenting . (2013). Retrieved from https://www.stonewall.org.uk/what_we_do/research_and_policy/4171.asp
Kimmel, M. (2008). Hegemonic masculinity and resistance. (1 ed., Vol. 1, p. 39).
Baum, J. (2008). Gender and privilege. (1 ed., Vol. 1, pp. 34-35).
Alpert, E. (2013). Why bisexuals stay in the closet. (1 ed., Vol. 1, p. 2).
