Domestic violence is a major issue that batters the right for equal respect and well-being for women folk of the society. Many men are found to be violent with their wives or live-in partners. Violence is something that has its roots in the male psyche that convinces the man that he is superior to the female. Also, he, being superior to the lady, can exert his might to get his way with things. Thus, some men go out of their way establishing the dominance. Women are victims of the rage and physical strength of the male counterparts in the domestic realm. Thus, more than legal steps to safeguard the women folk of the society, the men need to be counseled to understand where they are going wrong. Men have to know their mistake, or else there is no stopping the heinous crime of afflicting violence of the women of the household.
Counseling therapy is a major way to deal with the issue. Any therapy session seeks to have an open communication. The counseling of couples depends on the respect the persons have for each other. They should have the understanding of the shared responsibility for having a good relationship. For a couple’s counseling to work, the violence has to decrease, while the victim has to realize why she tolerates the abuse. However, there can be no doubt about the fact that the violence needs to be stopped at any cost. The men cannot keep on believing themselves to be superior to women. By creating a rift between the two sexes, men can only alleviate the disturbance in the domestic realm.
In stark contrast, individual counseling can be of help in such a scenario. The abuser can discuss expressing his emotions, so that he can understand himself what is leading to the abuse. In the process of discussion with a counselor, the male abuser can be made to realize of the shortcomings in the thought process, and how wrong it is to be violent with the female of the household. Thus, counseling is one of the best ways to deal with the problem. People need to embrace the truth, and act likewise abstaining from any harmful means to torture the partner. The women are equals in marriage, and should be given utmost respect. The manliness of men is in acknowledging the equal right, desire and respectfulness of the spouse.
The emotions of the male include pangs of anger, suspicion, resentment, and so on. The abuser might also be violent under the influence of alcohol or drugs. Patriarchy is another major player in this regard that might instigate the male to be violent on the female as a show of strength. The person can very extremely dominant and possessive, and violence can be a way for a man to show his virility. The person might also blame his partner for his behavior, and believe that all the faults lie with the female of the house. The actions are very wrong on the part of the man. Such actions need to be censured by one and all.
The representation of the media showing the male as a stronger being is another factor. Also, violence is shown as something that is exciting. The societal and cultural markers portray the male member of the family as the leader, while the female is taken to be submissive and passive. The historical and religious facts tend to imbibe in the minds that women are the property of the male members of the family. The conditioning of the mind initiates the exertion of dominance on the part of the males. Being physically stronger, exerting force becomes easier for men. If a woman is economically dependent on the male, it becomes easier for the male to dominate a woman. Thus, it is of utmost importance to involve the violent men in a program that would make them aware of their faults. The men need to be channelized to the path of propriety in the domestic realm.
All these things lead to a flawed perspective or psyche of the abuser. Hence, the prolonged process of counseling can be a welcome change in the thought process of the male member. The counselor can search for reasons of the violent behavior of the male through talking to him. The discussions would provide a man with a clear picture of his psyche. After understanding the reason for the violent behavior, the abuser would find it easier to deal with situations. He can understand his mistake, and learn the proper way to solve issues instead of exerting his physical strength on the female of the family. The remedy to the issue of domestic violence should start with making the abuser realize his wrongdoing, thus making him deter from indulging in violence anymore. The process of counseling is time-consuming, but helpful to the utmost degree. Hence, men who resort to domestic violence should be sent for counseling for a better domestic life and psyche.
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