Introduction
In life, every person loses loved ones that are difficult to handle and every person deals the situation differently. Death is a normal event in life that can hurt a loving heart. It is hard to accept if we lose the one special to us. Grieving hearts can hardly accept and cope with the feeling of loss.
However, to cope with this feeling is possible. I believe that I deeply reached the essence of love because I was able to cope with my grief and I supported my family. People who never experience loving someone never grieve. Coping with the loss of someone special is the hardest challenges a person can encounter. Grieving is an important process to cope with the complex feelings and to embrace it as part of life. A person's grief is deceiving; however, death is a part of living. God comforts a heart with sorrow and grief unconditionally and even a psychologist helps a grieving person handle its loss comfortably. A grieving heart copes with the complex feeling of losing someone special through love.
Coping with the loss of loved ones is not easy, and the best thing to do is to move on with life and simply honor the person who passed away. I allowed myself to grieve when my passed away in my own simple way. I always remember or think of my husband of the times we shared together positively. People should accept the feelings to cope with sadness and grief. I and my son accepted the death through accepting the natural feelings of losing my husband and a father of my only son. I take care of myself and my family. I personally comforted my grandchildren and explained to them that death is part of life. As a mother, I assured my son with his family that things will get better. In addition, I reach out those dealing with the same loss. After the death of my husband, I helped other people to cope with their loss. I became a stronger person, a mother, and became a father of my son.
Psychologists can help to get through sadness; trained people can help the bereaved family. When my husband died I consulted a psychologist to help me handle the situation properly. I suggested that my son would try to take time to consider seeing a psychologist because he had the hard time to accept the truth that his father passes away. Psychologist can explain the proper way to handle a stressful situation. The moment we resort to a psychologist it really helped me adjust and handle stress better.
Spiritual guidance is considered as the fortress of sorrow and grief. God is the center of everything. I humbly asked God to give me strength to stay strong for my son, grandchildren, and family. I became stronger spiritually when my husband was separated from me. Do not allow sadness and frustration ruins your life. My son and I became close with each other than before and supported each other through our faith that God always comforts us. Our family strongly believed that a death is a celebration of life for those who still live in the world.
Conclusion
Death is part of living and no one can ever change that reality. I thought that losing my husband leads me to frustration but it made me stronger. I cope with the complex feelings through the mutual support from my son, grandchildren, and family. A psychologist is an instrument that encourages a person to accept reality, or death. At first, I thought that seeing an expert is not necessary; however, it was a good decision made. God never fails to comfort in times of grief. I believed that spiritual guidance is a gift to a grieving heart. My whole family depends on the Almighty to stay strong in all aspects of our lives.
References
American Psychological Association. (2014). About Us: American Psychological Association.
Retrieved October 16, 2014, from American Psychological Association Web site: http://www.apa.org/helpcenter/grief
Watkins, J. (2014). Dealing with Grief. Retrieved from
http://www.cbn.com/spirituallife/prayerandcounseling/pcc/watkins_grief.aspx: The Christian Broadcasting Network, Inc. .
