Response to Posts
Response to Lusa’s Post
I agree with Lusa’s post that a transition into parenthood is faced with a lot of issues that must be amicably addressed. The journey to becoming a couple and sustaining the marriage for a significant period is a great challenge that most people opt to avoid. According to the post, marriages in the current generation are subject to several issues including the socioeconomic status, age, and the self-sacrifices that couples have to endure. Therefore, it is true that most marriages experience a fall way before the advancement of marriages, and as such must be mitigated to prevent further hazards. For example, Lusa clearly exonerates the age element as a potential barrier to the success of marriages today. In fact, people get to marriage before hitting the maturity age, thus posing a major challenge to balancing family and other social issues attributed to a youthful life (Leonard 47). Besides, this post exonerates about the socioeconomic status of the couple, which greatly influences the stay of marriage. Ability to meet family needs is a major determinant to the sustainability of marriage. Finally, this post articulates various means that can help mitigate fall-outs in most marriages, and I highly support the suggestions given such as having a proper financial plan.
Response to Valentina’s Post
The rate at which marriage declines alarms many people, and it takes a while to unearth the facts about this wide rebellion. It is an expectation by unmarried youths that upon marriage life will change and transcend on a positive note. This dream has been unforthcoming and in most cases remained a mirage to most families. I highly regard Valentina’s post, especially her comments about discontent in marriages today. Indeed, the advent of dissatisfaction in marriages begins when a father loses the taste of love and care when a child comes. In fact, a father will feel less cared for, and instead begin a self-revolt to express his frustration and agitation for the lost love. This initial dissatisfaction is primarily triggered as a result of love transferred to the newborn, which plays the epicenter of maternal love. Indeed, the excitement that a newborn brings generates a repressive influence on the family, where the mother’s love gets transferred to the child at the expense of the father (Leonard 48). Dissatisfaction and lack of trust set in, and the father begins to grow cold feet towards the wife. In as much as a child occupies a central parlance of love, this is not enough to exhaustively sustain a marriage. However, I differ with Valentina’s that couples should hold childbearing to a later date. This statement contravenes the basic social doctrine that children bring happiness to a family, and they are a blessing from God.
Families transiting to parenthood can be affected in several ways. Consider the case of a family in a low-level income having children at an early age. Financial constraints bring enormous challenges to young families because such a family would be straining to fend for its survival. Research shows that good finances play a significant role in making a family more satisfied, lack of it leads to stress (Hockenbury 37). Child keeping is not only expensive but also an involving affair that needs financial muscles. Furthermore, low income will make the family work extra hard to make ends meet; this means that the couple will not be having enough time to be with each other, and leads to an outright dissatisfaction.
Exchange Response 2
Transition to parenthood incapacitates a couple’s ability to work hard or even pursue higher learning. Currently, best jobs are solely based on the level of education, therefore, an individual dreaming to get higher paying jobs must be able to have higher education. Marriage and children eat into people’s time; basically, the couple will not get that they. Most of their times would be consumed in taking care of the family needs and probably looking after the children. Once again, lack of better-paying jobs leads to financial constraints and as to that fact, a family will feel dissatisfied (Hockenbury 38).
Works Cited
Hockenbury, Hockenbury &. Psychology. Upper Saddle River, New Jersey, NJ: Worth Publishers, 2010, Print.
Leonard, Fernald. Psychology: Six Perspectives. Thousand Oaks, California, CA: Sage Publications, 2011, Print.
