Introduction
Sex is very much alive in society today and people are having it left and right, this is a very big plus because it also means that the couple’s sex life is alive not to mention thriving. Annoyingly, there are some people, some couples who are not having sex that often or at all and the couple could have valid reasons as to why or not. This is a big plus for the porn industry because they are making thousands of dollars off of people, couples who have not touched each other since their wedding night or in some cases, the day before their wedding. Porn is defined as an exploration of explicit nudity and sex as well as fetishes in order to satisfy a sexual desire. Porn is one of the most beneficial and solemnly reputed things in a normal person’s life, it can be argued that porn is responsible for both good things as well as bad things happening to people. Make no mistake, porn has made more people happy than sad. There are those that will say that porn is no good for people because it is one of the worst things in society today, people view porn every day and they will justify it as they see fit. There are teenage boys who have been known to get into their father’s old penthouse magazines and discover that their father’s secret stash of porno magazines, this usually leaves them thirsting for more which turns them on to internet porn or pornography as a whole. It is argued that pornography is immoral and disgusting which could be true to some, but pornography goes beyond the level of morality. Pornography is all about people’s pleasures, it is all about people finding a side of themselves that they never knew existed. Let it be known that porn has played many a great role in the birthing of many children throughout time, it can be said that 18% of the babies born in the present day is due to porn. Despite how some people view porn, it is still a billion dollar industry that is making porn stars rich and single as well as married couples happy.
Body
Porn, much like everything else, has a beginning of how it came into being. Porn was started by a humble woman by the name of Linda Susan Boreman, she has appeared in a porn film or two throughout her life. Linda, a native of New York, got started as well as started porn in 1970 by her husband at the time Chuck Traynor. Traynor’s role as her husband was not the only thing he was, he was also her pimp who turned her into not just his hoe, but his leading porn star and was branded “Linda Lovelace”. Through coercion from Chuck, Linda did several peep shows that unfortunately signed her “contract” into the porn business where she later appeared in a porn movie. Linda was unfortunately a woman who was forced into the pornography business because she feared for her life, it started with a gangbang by three and more guys then it was a move up to forced prostitution then it was flat out pornography. Being Linda’s husband as well as her pimp, Traynor held all of the cards and played them as he saw fit; her every move was permissioned by Traynor. Just about every second of the day Linda was forced to do pornography against her will because of the forced coercion at gunpoint by two different guns, a .45 pistol and an M-16 military rifle which technically was illegal to own unless you were military. Linda also made a movie called Deep Throat where she was doing just that, and it was also another movie that she was forced to make because of her husband. It can be argued that she would not have died because he needed her, she was making him millions, and Chuck was notorious for getting Linda to do whatever he wanted whenever he wanted. Chuck forced Linda to do his porno movies because he threatened to kill her family if she did not comply. This put Linda in a bad situation where there was no way out, she either did the porn movies that her husband demanded of her or lose her life; acknowledging that Chuck had that much leverage is what kept Linda in line and compliant.
The Great Porn Debate between Ron Jeremy, the emperor of porn, and Craig Gross, the anti-porn pastor can be described as the quintessence of the clash of the titans. The Great Porn Debate can also be described as a warning to unwary people as well as a session of enlightenment and clearing up some misconceptions about pornography, people were both amused as well as stunned. The Great Porn Debate has affected our society in the aspect that it forces people to look at two key issues. One, those who watch porn and their justification and those who thinks it is immoral and is responsible for its part in strongly corrupting our society. In 2012, Rosenthal found that “the Great Porn Debate has caused a great many conflict in people on the issue of pornography in that it is viewed as both good for society and bad”. It is said that the Great Porn Debate has positively affected our society in the aspect that it makes people feel unashamed about looking at pornography, Ron Jeremy stands on the threshold of the just and signifies that it is okay to look at porn because it is just as natural as having sex as long as those who watch it do not let it dominate their whole lives which some do. Diamond (2010) examined the fact that “people are watch something for their enjoyment instead of unsanctimonius pleasures”. Ron Jeremy also quoted that because some people get ridiculously obsessed with watching porn does not make it bad, it is all about the mind and behavior of the person watching it. Porn is similar to death, it is not good or bad, it just is. Ironically, it is usually labeled as bad and there are a lot of positive things about porn that some people fail to acknowledge. Porn should be viewed as harmless, it keeps a lot of potential sex criminals off the streets as well as a red carpet invitation to fetishes of their own design. It is a known fact that people who watch pornography is many times likely to live happily as well as add spice to their relationship versus those who are prudish about the issue, and avoid it. The Great Porn Debate has empowered people to the point of reasserting and addressing their needs as human beings.
The Great Porn Debate has conversely affected our society in a way where it has forced people to view pornography as disgusting, demeaning, immoral and redundant smut that should not exist. Pastor Gross bellows that pornography is immoral because children can easily get access to it and it corrupts their innocent little minds, turns them onto something that they have no business looking at. Also, Pastor Gross argues that pornography degenerates women and make them look more like objects than actually human beings. This side of the debate has forced a lot of people to rethink and question their views on pornography, and how it might possibly be making responsible parents all over United States feel that they are setting a bad example for their child or children everywhere. It can be said that because of Pastor Gross, some couples are forced to consider questions like “would we really show that to our children”, “are we part of the problem” or “do we really need porn to spice up our marriage/relationship?” People who are letting Pastor Gross’s words into their minds are allowing themselves to be corrupted by the idea that people are not supposed to be people, they are supposed to conceal their sexuality as women were supposed to back in biblical days. A naked body is not supposed to be exposed to everyone except to your husband or wife, and people in relationships are not supposed to have sex with random people. The Great Porn Debate from Pastor Gross’s side is not supposed to be a debate at all because he views porn as a means of self-debauchery and self-delusion. It is heir apparent that people will feel the way that they do about porn and act accordingly but it does not mean that because one person disagrees with it, it is wrong. Pastor Gross argues that the women in these porn films are just victims who are technically being forced to do porn because they have no self-respect about themselves. The truth is, women in the porn industry do it by choice because they are not ashamed of their bodies, they also know that their word is law of where to draw the line; they are no more a victim than a 55-year-old lady would be in a Walmart trying on a bra.
Porn is perceived today as one of the biggest innovative tools in the known world, porn has opened or in some cases, reopened doors in people’s lives that were closed forever because of morality issues. One of the bigger advantages to porn is that it allows people to explore a side of themselves that they never knew, it also allows people to be happy in their relationship or marriage. Porn can literally change a failing marriage into a Hot-To-Trotsky relationship like the couple had before they got married, people getting in touch with their fetish or watching porn on their fetish gets them sexually excited to the point that they do not want to stop having sex with the person they are with. Knox (2014) claim that “those who are big on watching pornography are less likely to rob or kill anyone of either sex, porn keeps crimes as well as sex crimes to a very low minimum”. Porn is also perceived today as the building block to couples bonding, it has made couples stronger and able to get excited about the relationship. Case in point, Nora and William are a couple with a lot in common, but it is a different story when it comes to their sexuality as a couple. William is only turned on only if he has a good day at work which is hardly ever, Nora loves having sex every single minute of the day and wishes that her husband William was more like her. Nora has been watching porn behind William’s back and while he’s at work, she has been getting some ideas about how to get William to be a little more sexually open. Nora buys a nightie with a pair of open-toe mules and William find Nora lying about the bed, William likes what he sees. William takes Nora apart and they have sex continuously all night long and into the next day, William and Nora now has sex on a regular basis trying new things thanks to pornography. People who feel that their sex life is dead will get a chance to partake in some sexual awakening because that is one of the positives of porn, it sexually reawakens a couple’s sex life so they can make having sex a ritual instead of a tiresome chore to quickly get done with because of the predictability.
Another big advantage to being pro-porn as well as watching it is that it gives people the chance to harmlessly explore their fetishes without retribution or ugly commentary from other people, if it is one thing that people love to do and that is to talk about other people as well as what they are doing never mind why they would not do it. Once upon a time, people used to talk about their fetishes to other people and feared that it would get out. Nowadays, people can watch as well as save their favorite porn videos of their fetishes so they can go back to it again and again; there is no crime in doing that especially since the only person that is getting any benefit from doing it is the person doing it. Porn is meant to be used for either personal or interrelationship purposes, always having new things to try is what keeps a relationship alive and always thriving. Booth (2013) found that “porn empowers couples to try new things not just because it is expected of them in order to get keep the meaning in their relationship, but because it makes people look forward to sex”. Conservative people perceive porn like it is dirty and disgusting never mind awful on a whole, women letting themselves be exploited for a few measly dollars. However, it is a known fact that people make it their life’s work to have sex with their significant other on a daily basis because they cannot envision their lives without it. Porn is never going away because there are too many people that benefit from it, everything from foot fetish porn to girl on girl porn, it is never going away because people love this kind of stuff; it speaks to their sexual needs as a human being. It can be argued that porn is a teaching tool for those who are trying to know what to do when their date wants to get sexual on prom night or when they feel that the time is right for them to have sex for the first time, porn is overall a welcome addition to people’s lives because it is not just smut; it is a very fascinating thing to observe. Couples may not be like the pair in the porno, but it does not mean that they cannot get ideas of their own from it and that is no crime.
The biggest reason that porn is a needed commodity and a welcome addition to any adult household is because it allows couples to fulfill a fantasy or moreover, their sexual fantasies. It is believed (Orlowski, 2012) that “Couples find that they need pornography to enrich their sex lives is not a bad or immoral thing, it just means that people are looking to enhance their sex life so they can keep making each other happy” (53). Porn makes fantasies come true for most couples and it gives them a chance to tap into their sexual creativity, it can also jump start a couple’s love life as well. Moyer (2011) found that “Porn has other benefits other than personal or sexual, it has brought sexual crimes as well as potential deviants to an all-time low. Men do not need to rape when there is porn, women do not need to cheat when there is porn”. Make no mistake, porn has no negative repercussions because people are too busy either satisfying that neighbor lady down the street or their girlfriend or wife. It is a known fact that porn has made couples fall in love all over again, acting out a fantasy can bring couples together and infinitely strengthen their sexual ties. Case in point, Fred and Emily have been dating for 2 years and know everything about each other. Fred has a foot fetish, Emily already knows it but he does not think she does. Emily and Fred watch porn together to get some ideas about how to further enhance their sex life, it is a weekly ritual. Emily dresses up in a short skirt, flats, and a nice shirt and she acts out Fred’s fantasy. Emily is grabbing all over Fred’s body, she even takes off one of her shoes and rubs her foot up and down Fred’s leg while they are making out. Fred stops, Emily puts her shoe back on and Fred carries her upstairs to their bedroom then they make passionate love. Fred and Emily act out each other’s fantasies which they got the idea from porn, it has strengthened their love and sex life. Fred and Emily cannot keep their hands off of each other, porn is the reason for that as it has been for other couples. Porn is meant to help couples go in their sexual relationship, there is nothing wrong with using porn as a platform to satisfy that significant other.
Conclusion
In summary, the porn business is a multi-billion dollar industry that has gotten rich off of many a man and woman acting out a scene, it can be argued that doing porn is an art; an art that only a handful of people are meant to do. Porn has made couples strong and has reawakened their sex lives, porn has helped people reevaluate their current sexual needs and open them up to new ones. Ironically, conservatives like Pastor Gross say that porn is immoral and should be shut down because it is not about adults being satisfied, it is all about protecting their children who are not really in any danger of watching pornography. There are some women who are forced into doing porn movies and prostitution like Linda Boreman was, but there are contracts in place in the present day where people who do porn are under obligation to state exactly what they are and are not comfortable with. Coincidentally, there are more good reasons to watch and invest time in porn than not. Fulfilling sexual fantasies is one of the biggest reasons couples watch porn in the first place, they do not find it degrading or degenerative to their relationship; it gives couples a new lease on their sex life and acting out fantasies bring couples together. Porn also keeps people in relationships from cheating, a person can look at porn from now until doomsday but as long as they are imagining themselves and their partner doing the things that the actors are doing in the porno, it is not cheating. The Great Porn Debate has turned many a head and challenged many a person about their actions and feelings about porn, but let it be known that porn has no negative side effects or repercussions that the person needs to recover from. Most people do not know this but compared to television, a person has a better chance of getting out of doing a porno unlike those who are bound tooth and nail. People have a luxury to watch porn, and get themselves off if they need to; there is always a need to. Porn is not immoral, human beings have “needs” that only porn can satisfy whether the person is single or in a relationship.
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