Human sexuality can be termed as the ability of a person to have erotic responses and feelings. It is important to note that sexuality involves the body of the person, mind and their spirit. Sexuality is an important aspect in the life of human being. The sexual interest and also the feeling of being attracted to another person can mostly be influenced by the sexual orientation of the person. There are several ways in which sexuality can be expressed for example through thoughts, beliefs, attitudes, relationships, desires and values (Haig et al., 2011). Sexuality can also be manifested biologically, physically spiritually, socially and emotionally. Sexuality is known to have social ramifications and that is why most societies have come out strongly to set some limits to sex through taboos, religious guidelines and social norms so that people may not abuse it. There are widespread rules about sex one being the one that forbid young people from indulging in sexual behaviors until they are married. In this essay I am going to write about my interaction experience with someone who is heterosexual and another one who is homosexual.
My first interaction on the sexuality was with a homosexual person. Homosexuality is the sexual attraction of persons of the same sex. The man that I interviewed confessed to me that he is sexually attracted to another man and that whenever he sees that man the feeling of having sex with him just comes automatically. The man also confessed to me that they have been having sex with his partner for many years but secretly for fear of being victimized by the society.
When I tried to enquire from the man why he chose to have a sexual relationship with a fellow man rather than with a woman, the man told me that it is a feeling that he cannot understand and it is a feeling he has accepted to live with. He just finds himself wanting to have sexual intercourse with men and not women. From my interaction with him, I got to realize that homosexuality is like a contagious disease that infects the central nervous system of a person hence causing irritating and disgusting immoral thoughts to a person. This feeling is mostly influence by the genes, hormonal system and the environment in which they live.
Environment also influences a person to be homosexual in the sense that when you grow up in the environment where there are a lot of gays and lesbians then, a person may be tempted to explore the feeling of being a gay out of curiosity. The man was also able to confess to me that there were a lot of gays in the high that he attended. He was introduced to that group by his close friend and since then he has always been having sexual relationship with fellow men. The sexual feeling he has towards men is stronger than that he has towards women. On many occasions he has been seduced by women but he doesn’t feel the same way he feels when seduced by a man at the night clubs and other entertainment spots.
I went ahead to ask him of the challenges that he faces on being a gay and he gave me a number of them. One of the challenges that he faces for being a gay is the victimization he receives from the society. He told me that his friends and family members find it hard to accept his choice of being gay. They see it as not being morally correct. Secondly, he will not be able to have children of his own and therefore eventually he will be forced to marry a woman in order to have children and this is against his wishes. Thirdly, there is no law that protects the gays and lesbians in the society. If there was a law that protects them, then he would feel free to express his sexual feelings publicly. But he has nothing to do about it because the feeling of being a gay is natural and he cannot do anything about it other than just living with it.
I also got an opportunity to interview a person who is heterosexual. This is person who is sexually attracted to people of the opposite sex. Majority of the people in the world are heterosexual and that they prefer to have sex with people of the opposite gender. On interviewing the person, he told me that he is romantically and sexually attracted to women only and he is not sexually attracted to men. He also told me that he does not support homosexuality and that he doesn’t see the reason as to why a fellow man can have sexual feelings towards another man. According to him, homosexuality should not be encouraged in the society although he appreciates the fact that everyone has the right to choose the kind of life they want to live and that they should not be victimized by the society.
He went ahead to tell me even the bible supports sex between people of opposite sex and condemn that of people of the same sex. He also told me that he love being heterosexual because one day he would be able to have children and start a family of his own.
There are some differences between heterosexual and homosexual in the sense that homosexual is the sexual relationship between people of same sex and that a person can be termed as gay once they develop sexual feeling towards a fellow man. On the other hand heterosexual is the sexual relationship between people of opposite sex that is, between a man and a woman. Another difference between the two is that, heterosexuality has been widely accepted by the society and that individuals who practice the act are not victimized by the society and on the other hand homosexuality is not accepted in the society and anybody who practice it is regarded as immoral.
However, there are some similarities between the two. First the sexual feeling of being homosexual or heterosexual is natural and that it is inevitable for individuals to feel the way they feel. Another similarity between the two is the fact that a person feels sexually satisfied once they have sex with person of their preference. It is also important to note that both heterosexual and homosexual are sexual orientations and also gender preferences.
My interaction with the two people gave me a broad understanding on this topic on human sexuality. I got to realize that people become either heterosexual or homosexual naturally and that people are influenced by the genes, hormones and the environment in which they are to be who they are. After this influence that is when people can manifest their sexual feelings emotionally, biologically, physically, socially and spiritually to people whom they are sexually attracted to. The biological and physical aspects concerning sexuality are majorly concern with reproductive functions of human beings. The social aspects of sexuality deal with the impact of the society on the sexuality of the person while the spiritual aspect is concern with spiritual connections of a person with others.
This topic on sexuality is very important because it is good for people to have a broad understanding on what sexuality is and what makes people to behave the way they behave as far as sex is concern. Therefore, it gives an individual an insight on the myth about sex and being able to make good and informed decisions about their sexual health. An understanding of human sexuality is also very important because it affects who we are in the society and at the same time how we express ourselves.
Conclusively, sexuality is an important aspect in the society and that the society should treat people equally when it comes to sexuality. Both the homosexual and heterosexual have the right to choose the kind of lifestyle they want to live as long as they don’t interfere with the freedom and rights of other people and therefore they should receive protections from the laws governing the country. This is because the feeling of being either heterosexual or homosexual is a natural feeling and sometimes people cannot control that feeling and therefore the society should accept them for who they are and give them the kind of support they require.
Work cited
Haig, J., V. MacMillan, and G. Raikes. Human sexuality in a world of diversity. Nelson Education, 2011.
