Marriage vs. Military Service Member
Military service is typical in the current world, where crimes and terror attacks have increased. Some of the servicemen may be involved in battles for long durations, leaving their families worried about their safety in the war. Married people who go out to war leaving their partners and kids at home are not settled because they are always thinking about the welfare of the family. When family members are left at home, they do not know if their members will be back from the battle in a healthy condition, and this causes panic among the kids and partners. Balancing between marriage and military service life is an important issue because the partners feel separated by the distance, and they are always worried about the welfare of those out for a battle since they can be killed in the process and may never see each other again. In addition, some of the military service members may return after long durations but the extended periods of separation may weaken their family ties. There is the need to create a balance between the military life and the welfare of marriage and family.
Unhappiness and Divorce
Working as a military serviceman comes with a lot of martial stress and this increases when out for duty. When soldiers are in a battle, they are stressed to a point some may end up losing their minds. During a fight, deaths are inevitable, and it becomes difficult to absorb the death of a colleague. Seeing a friend die makes some of the soldiers traumatized and may even lose value for the people they love and care for, and this brings conflicts in the families. Increased stress levels cause some of the soldiers to be abusive to their partners, which is a primary reason for divorce among the families. Some of the families with members in the military complain of their insensitivity when it comes to life issues, and this may result in bad family relations and divorce (Rawstone, 2011). Average married couples have fewer chances of a divorce because they have minimal stress and in the case of a bothering issue, they can talk it out because they are close to each other.
Effects on Children whose Parents are in the Army
Children whose parents are in the United States Army have multiple challenges while growing. Some of the kids are born while their dads are out in the war and grow without the fatherly love and care and may end up having negative attitudes towards them. In addition, some kids never see their dads because some of them do not return from wars, and they live with the psychological torture of never having a father. When children are left under the care of guardians or a single parent, and the other goes out for a battle, they have psychological torture (Rubin, 2006) because they fear their parents may die and never see them again, and this may affect their social life and education. Every kid needs the parental care all the time, which is cut short when a parent goes out to war.
What Drives Soldiers to get Married so Fast
It is common to have many soldiers marry at a young age. Some of the military men marry immediately they have been enrolled in the system and get kids. There may be different motivations for quick marriages among the soldiers, but one of the major ones is the uncertainty of their job. Some people fear they may die in their line of duty and leave no families and siblings, and this makes them have the desire for early marriages. Another reason for marrying so fast is because there are monetary values for having dependents; hence, they prefer to start families early so that the government can take care of their expenses.
Conclusion
Early marriages are common among the military people because their job is uncertain. When the soldiers get married, and they are out for battle, their families suffer psychological problems since they fear they may lose them to the enemies. Families of military people should be given guidance to ensure they live a better life and minimize the stress levels.
References
Rawstone, A. (2011). Positive Relationships: Military Families - In service. Nursery World,2011(5). http://dx.doi.org/10.12968/nuwa.2011.31.5.1096300
Rubin, D. (2006). Balancing family and career: addressing the challenge facing dual-career couples. Gastrointestinal Endoscopy, 63(6), 831-833. http://dx.doi.org/10.1016/j.gie.2006.01.056
