Part One
One of the most challenging adversities that I had to overcome was losing my best friend to the Desert Shield war. My best friend and I knew each other very well. We experienced so many things together since our childhood, which made our relationship stronger. Through our experiences, we knew that we can count on each other if we needed help with anything in our lives. These are the reasons why it was particularly difficult for me. The loss also made me realize that unlike me, my best friend would not be able to accomplish life goals and go through other valuable experiences life had to offer. To manage my grief, I sought support from family and friends. I found that talking to other people about my feelings as well as supporting my best friend’s family helped in handling loss and grief.
My best friend’s death made me realize the importance of seizing life and living it to the fullest. In a way, these thoughts inspired me to set goals and make plans such as to pursue a degree, establish my career and earn and living, have a family, and support them. I am at my happiest now when I spend time with my children and when I can be certain that we are all safe at home. Moreover, I am also happy because I would be earning my Bachelor’s degree in Spring 2015. Spending time with my children make me proud of myself that I am raising them in a loving and supporting home, and knowing the I would be achieving a milestone next year make me believe in my skills and capabilities in establishing my own career.
I decided to focus on secure attachment to describe my traits and characteristics. I think that the way I dealt with loss and grief as well as the reasons why I am happy reflect the parallelism between my character and the traits of securely attached adults. Essentially, securely attached adults value long-term relationships, have high self-esteem, communicate with family and friends, and seek social support. To manage loss and grief, I sought support from family and friends through communication. In addition, I believe that I have achieved happiness because of the sense of pride and esteem I feel for having and raising children and earning a degree next year.
Part Two
I am sorry to hear that Karen but on the topic of aggression, I am also relieved that this emotion on your part only brought about frustration. I say this because in some situations, aggression not only leads to frustration but other worse behaviors, particularly those that would cause self-harm and harm to others. The detrimental impact of aggression is one of the reasons why it is important for us to understand it so we can easily determine or identify if we are experiencing it in our lives, and consequently adopt management strategies to help us manage aggression such as looking for sources of happiness around us.
I agree with you Jasmine when you mentioned the availability of resource as one of the primary factors that contributes to happiness. If I were to reevaluate instances in my life that achieved my goals, I also felt happy whenever I had enough or adequate resources to achieve these goals. I do, believe, however, that the lack of resources may lead to unhappiness. I think this is an interesting aspect of the topic to also explore because if we know that the availability of resources contribute to happiness, then the opposite could also contribute to unhappiness. I also read about your ideas on persuasion techniques at work. I found them interesting and I think I would be able to use them at work, particularly the one about using visual clues in order to get to know people in the workplace. I believe that doing so would help us establish positive relationships with other people at work.
