`Indecision:
After sending a reply to a message or after composing a message, the author feels a need to change the wording. This is in an attempt to ensure that the letter conveys the intended message in the best way. The need to change the wording after the message has been sent is a sign of indecision. However, the author describes people who do not mind sending the wrong message. This is illustrated by the sewer who stitched a sleeve wrongly. After noticing that the sleeve was stitched the wrong way down, she was willing to hand over the robe in its current state without correcting the mistake. This is clearly something that the author would not do, as they are a perfectionist, always wanting to convey a perfect message.
Embarrassment:
Gossip:
Complaining:
Sympathy:
People have sympathy. They sympathize with someone going through a certain situation. However, sympathy can only be expressed but the sympathizer would not want to be in the same situation. At times, many people will be inwardly happy that a person is going through a tough time. This is especially true if there is an element of competition between the two people. For example, a businessman will express sympathy when their business rival is having a hard time in business. However, they might feel inwardly happy because they are not going through the same situation and have a chance of gaining an advantage. In other cases, a person might express outward sympathy but blame the person who is suffering. The suffering person is apportioned the blame for their suffering. They are portrayed as the source of their misery.
Analysis
These are all characteristics that are hateful in a person. Relationships are very important to the human being. Human beings need other human beings for a variety of reasons. During their interactions, human beings form relationships. These can be business relationships or personal relationships. There are times when these two types of relationships cross paths. There are a number of important factors that underpin every relationship. Relationships are built on mutual trust. However, there are some things that undermine a relationship. When these things happen, the trust in the relationship is broken and the relationship suffers.
Gossip is one of the things that will easily undermine a relationship. Gossip usually involves peddling of negative and sometimes false information about someone without their knowledge. Many people are interested in gossip as the stories are mostly juicy and can provide entertainment for a bored person. However, it is important to know that once a person participates in gossip, they are risking their relationship with someone. A person will usually have intimate information about someone if they are close enough. This information is shared in confidence with the hope that it will not be shared with other people. Usually, a person will open up to someone they are close to with a problem in the hope that in sharing the problem, they can be assisted to solve the problem. If a person goes on to disclose this information to other people, they will have broken the confidence of the person. The relationship between the two people will suffer as a result. On a personal note, I do not condone gossip. I find it to be a sign of weakness and an unfulfilled life. I have many things that concern me and speculating about other people’s lives will not add value to me.
Moreover, gossiping is a sign of cowardice. I believe that if you want to talk about someone, you should do it in their presence. This way, the person will have an opportunity to clarify on anything. I am usually indecisive when it comes to certain matters. This comes from being attentive to little details. This can bring problems as I always want to improve on something once I have completed it. This was especially a problem in school when handing in assignments. I would go through the work multiple times trying to improve on what I had already done. This brought on a number of problems, sometimes handing in my assignment late because of trying to make last minute changes.
Over the years, I have learnt to use my indecisiveness to my advantage. I make sure that I do something to the best of my ability the first time. Usually, this is usually the best version of work I will do. When this happens the first time, I will have plenty of time to correct any mistakes in good time. That said; I usually have to repeat work a number of times in order to be completely satisfied with the results. I am an introvert and I will try to avoid embarrassing situations as much as possible. Whenever I find myself in a situation that might turn out embarrassing, I will excuse myself from the room before things get out of hand. Sometimes it is too late and embarrassing things can be said in my presence. In such situations, I will usually try to change the topic subtly. For example, I will make a joke to diffuse the situation. Learning to handle my embarrassments has been an important part of helping me overcome the shortcomings associated with being an introvert. I find that my coping mechanisms are also good conversation starters and I am able to build my self confidence around people. I am also a very sympathetic person.
I will sympathize with a person going through a difficult period. Rather than admonishing someone, I will try to put myself in their position and do what I would want people to do for me. That said; I will find it difficult to tell someone deeply about my sympathy. Many times, this can lead to situations that I consider embarrassing. I will therefore avoid such situations. This can lead to people assuming that I am indifferent. I will try to talk about different things in order not to get too emotional. However, my actions will show that I am sympathetic. Actions speak louder than words and I consider actions to be more appropriate than words. Finally, I despise whiners. These are people who are always complaining. I have met people who have gone through hardship and you would not know by looking at them. They are positive and try to look on the bright side. I therefore have no room for people who are always complaining. It is a habit that I consider petty. If something is wrong, it is important to complain, but there is no point in dwelling on it.
Work Cited:
Sei, Shōnagon, and Arthur Waley. The Pillow-Book of Sei Shōnagon. Whitefish, Mont.?: Kessinger Publishing, 2005. Print.
