Communication Problem
It is common for people to experience some problems during the process of communication. Sometimes it is easy for individuals to misunderstand or misinterpret the others, and these misunderstandings may lead to discomfort or tension in personal, platonic, or professional relationships.
In my daily routine, I am not a poor communicator. I feel at ease with my friends and we always have a lot of topics to discuss. However the biggest problem appears while I’m talking to my group mates, I became really nervous. I am afraid of giving them a wrong answer or wrong suggestions.
For example, every time during a group discussion, it is hard for me to say more than five sentences. I usually just listen to my group mates’ conversations and agree with them. Although even if I have any suggestions or ideas of my own, I will listen to my group mates’ opinions first.
There are a few reasons why I am afraid to share ideas with my group mates. Firstly, English is my second language and it is the biggest barrier for me. Even when I have the idea on my mind, I don’t know how to express it completely. Even when I provide the idea to my group mates, they can give me some feedback, containing a lot of difficult words so that I cannot understand them clearly. Then I would just say “OK, Yes, or I got that.” But the fact is I didn’t really understand what they’ve said.
Secondly, I worry about that group mates will refuse my suggestions or dislike my ideas. Sometimes when I come up with an idea, I might have to think it over in my mind. If I consider it to be a good idea I will tell it to my group mates, but if I am not sure about it I will remain silent. Finally, I am too shy to talk to strangers. Sometimes the groups are divided by professors. It may happen that there will be no one you know in the group. It seems a bit embarrassing for me to reveal my and to see that they do not agree with me.
I think I need to learn how to be confident while sharing ideas with group mates. There are some tips which can help me reach to succeed.
Practice. You can overcome the fear of communication uncertainty only by practicing communication. You can try to interact with local students more often.
Be more confident. You have to believe in yourself. Do not think about what others might think. It doesn’t matter.
Search self-help books on the Internet and practice at home.
I think the first tip is the best way out for me. I can make a difference only with the help of practice. Practicing at home won’t help me to overcome my fear. Communication with local students will improve my English skills faster. If I join more clubs I will become acquainted with a lot of new people, from different countries. In the course of time, I will get used to talking to strangers and will share my ideas in a complete confidence.
