Introduction to Self-Awareness
This paper aims to discuss the aspects about the concept of self-awareness. Self-awareness is an important subject and aspect that is associated to our lives and we all have to concentrate on our actions, behaviors and beliefs from time to time. It is important to concentrate on the agreements and commitments that one makes with oneself (Heatherton & Baumeister, 1991).
Such agreements or self-concentration helps us to set the achievable goals in our lives and, in these agreements, we try to concentrate on our abilities, desires and our behaviors. Everyone has a different sort of thinking, a unique belief set and behavior related to its practical approach to deal with the matters of life.
Many times, we think about where we stand in our lives, and where we want to stand in our lives. There is a gap that needs to be fulfilled within a due course of time. Such goals are our career and professional goals, which need to be completed in one or the other way around. We accordingly, try to concentrate on the things that we do or we do not do. We may find things that we intend to do and, sometimes, we find things that seem to be as fantasies or that are not doable in real time.
Important Aspects and Features of Self-Awareness
First of all, we can consider the aspects related to the values that are naturally stable characteristics of any individual. The values contribute to greater extent in setting the attitudes and prioritization of our lives. We look at our surroundings and society for determination of the social and cultural values.
We feel a lot of concerned about the cultural and social values practiced by the people living around us. As a child, we learn to adopt these cultural values right from the stage of our childhood. The religion, society and culture plays a vital role in the value determination (Joinson, 2001). We have to follow the trend that is set by our ancestors and the forefathers despite of the fact that we disagree with them. Sometimes, we start feeling that we are acting as a part of someone else, whereas in actuality, our way of responding to the events and behavior follows a completely different approach.
For instance, my ancestors have been practicing a particular religion or faith and it is obvious that they were following the norms and values of that religion. I have been close to my grand-father since my childhood and noticing his actions as he met with the people. I have learned the social values regarding how to live within a given society.
I also learnt, how to interact with the people by seeing at the actions of my grandfather. I have adapted all the beliefs and thoughts that are inherited by my fore-fathers and ancestors. It seems to me as a natural tendency found amongst all the human beings. The values inherited from the ancestors or society by a human being becomes adaptable naturally due to many reasons.
But, it is not essential that we become satisfied with the concept and theory related to it. At any stage of our lives, we can think about the flaws or the inconsistencies that exist in the matter of understanding with regards to our belief, existing systems, and values. This is the time to concentrate on the shortcomings and limitations that we consider about the belief system.
However, it is a fact that, I was not able to express this difference of opinion in front of my elders or openly in front of the society. Self-expression is something, that every person must exercise as a human being. The freedom of expression is a universal right for all the human beings in this world. But, we see that in practice, the elders do not find it worthy to listen to the difference of opinion or any criticism about the conventional value system.
The second thing, that is important, to discuss in the context of self-awareness is the interpersonal style or communication tactics that we usually adopt during interaction with others. It is one of the important aspects that is related to the self-awareness and self-confidence of an individual (Carlopio & Andrewartha, 2012).
Such an aspect deals with our probabilities to lead and communicate others in various matters of our lives. We usually adopt this from with our closed ones or relatives, such as our mentors, teachers, parents and our friends. We closely watch that how they interact with the other people and what style they adopt during the conversation with the others. As a child, we use to follow the actions and words of our elders, which is again a part of natural learning and self-awareness. The interpersonal skills developed during the childhood continue to enact during the later time of our lives.
As a child, I have also tried to follow my ancestors’ style of communicating with others and developed the interpersonal style of dealing with others. It is the conventional way, and as the time passed on, I also tried to learn from the teachers and other elders. The schooling era of my life provided me with a lot of opportunities to interact with other individuals and learn the real application of communication skills. This particular time provided me with the convenience of opportunities to look into the techniques and ways related to the interpersonal communication. I have also gained adequate level of confidence as the time passed on during my tenure at the school. I have learnt various ways of communication and interaction with my colleagues.
Why Self-Awareness is so Valuable
Regards to the self-awareness involves the development of a individual’s behavior. The individual’s behavior is dependent upon the previous factor that is cultural and social norms developed as per our living in a particular society. Naturally, we become familiar with the things and events that are going on around us and develop a particular way to respond to the situation that is evolved. Our behaviors are developed on seeing the cultural values and norms practiced among the people around us.
For example, I have developed my behavior based upon the facts that I saw in the personality of my elders and teachers. The school was also one of the important places where I have learnt about the development of behavior and I witnessed certain ways to express it. This part of my life that I have spent in the school involves learning some of the key features related to the self-awareness.
I have watched closely how the seniors and other colleagues behave and interact with the evolving situation. The religious and cultural values have played an important role in shaping my behaviors, attitudes, and approaches in my life.
Although, I have felt that there were many things going on in the society that can be considered as unacceptable or at least I can show my indifference with them. But, I discarded this thought of expressing the indifference as I knew that the practice of showing acceptability to the indifferences and criticism is not favored among the people.
Conclusion
Self-awareness is an important aspect of our life that helps us to explore things and matters about ourselves (Cherniss, 2000). This is considered as a continued process throughout our life and we usually learn as the life goes on. Self-awareness is important for everyone who is interested in becoming a successful human-being. There are certain features and aspects that are associated with the self-awareness and self-consciousness. It requires a continuous self-evaluation and self-analysis performed by us on a continuous basis. The cultural values, social norms and learning of our behaviors based upon seeing others that are close to us play a vital role in the development of our personality (Salovey & Mayer, 1990).
Action Plan
- Phase 1: I need to focus on continuously working for the betterment of my ability to improve and excel with the adequate advancements in my knowledge.
- Phase 2: I need to follow the commitments that I have made to the people. I need to stricitly follow key agenda on the to-do list.
- Phase 3: I need to develop my behavior in accordance with the statements and principled stance.
I would like to learn the approaches and theories related to the improvement in self-awareness, and thereby, improving the personality from several perspectives. I would even like to improve the communication skills so as to better understand a scenario in my life. I would even like to learn the conversational approaches so as to enhance my management, leadership, and communicating skills and abilities.
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