According to the study, that examined the mental health of families of deployed soldiers, scientists have stated that “very often such spouses suffer from alcohol and drug use, personality disorder, cognitive disorder, impulse control disorder and, of course, sleep disorders, anxiety and stress” (SteelFisher, G., Zaslavsky, A., & Blendon, R. 2008, p. 221-229).
Personally, I have chosen to analyze the first scenario where a woman is afraid of possible turns of future life with her husband. He is about to come back home and her wife is looking forward to seeing him. On the other hand, she is aware of the fact that he is not the same man with whom she fell in love. The woman is concerned with mental health issues that her husband might have faced such as traumatic brain injury and post-traumatic stress disorder. On returning home soldier has to adjust to family life and civil life in general. During this time both husband and wife have to create a new balance that fits their lifestyle.
I am inclined to believe that such spouses search for help in support groups, which have to be attended on a regular basis. I am convinced that one of the most efficient coping strategies is based on the support from friends, family and other spouses who are experiencing the same situation. These groups are aimed at supporting and educating military spouses how to lead normal lives. Talking about the circumstances appearing from the first scenario I would suggest the woman looking for the support of the people surrounding her and avoiding isolation. It is also extremely important to maintain a positive, non-judgmental attitude. In order to establish healthy communication and encourage the family member to trust her she should be honest and not be afraid of sharing her emotions and feeling with the beloved person. It goes without saying that she has to arm herself with patience and not to give up while dealing with obstacles to restore her relationships.
References
SteelFisher, G., Zaslavsky, A., & Blendon, R. (2008). Health-related impact of
deployment extensions on spouses of active duty Army personnel. Military
Medicine. Washington DC.
