Communication
1. The aim is to me an effective communicator with good interpersonal touch that is considerate to the environment and the people around me.
5. The basic styled and methods of communication are the verbal cues and the non-verbal proceeds. The non-verbal cues include the body language and sign that emanate from a person without necessarily speaking.
7. The example's liberating assumptions are the following: If things do not get better they will get worse, the problem is not a problem, the problem is not a problem and if ignored the problem does not go away. In the first instance, the assumption that if there is no improvement implies that if the relevant steps and measures are not taken to control or rectify a circumstance, then the inevitable would be worsening of the same. The second shows that a person could be overemphasising on the minor issue, and not a real problem, thus the assumption. The last assumption is that if a person does not take the requisite measures and steps to tackle the issue, then the whole issue would recur in the future.
An example is in a marriage setting, as time progresses, and the couples do not get along then they will fall out. Secondly, couples can focus on a minor argument and break the marriage rather than address the issue, such as finances or infidelity amongst others. Lastly, if the couples do not strive to address the issues confronting their marriage, then the same issue would recur in the future.
9. Example of a metacommunication in action, Person “You have food particles in your mouth,” Person B responds, “You were fired from work?
10. I can control: my anger and emotions, on the other hand I cannot control the feelings of another person towards me and the emotions of another person
11. The problem is not the problem refer as to an instance where a person focuses on a minor issue while there is a big issue that needs to be addressed. For instance, in marriage, a couple can opt for separation and divorce due to arguments. But arguments are just avenues through which people vent their anger, thus, the real problem could be infidelity, etc. The couple would be focusing on arguments, which is not a problem while there is a big problem in the background
12. It means that we can turn our problems and the challenges that are directed to us and make them better by converting them in a clever way.
13. Telling a teenage girl, “You are always a good girl, you will help me tonight,” could be misinterpreted out of the intended context thus a different meaning.
14. “Do the work now, because I said so!” This is an ordering phrase; the tone is commanding and ordering.
15. “Before you file for a divorce, think about the children.” This is aimed at instilling a sense at the concerned person to discourage him or her from divorcing.
16. It disallows the person to experience the full weight of his or her emotions, thus, it is important to allow a person to mourn or accept the situation for him or herself.
17. For physical touch-I suppose holding hands because it is emotionally connecting
Quality time- cook together and Gifts-throw a birthday party
Act of service-clean the house
18. Purchasing a manicure/pedicure
Encouragement
Positive guidance and encouragement
Surprise him or her with tickets for special events such as dates and trips
Offer coupons
Wash his or her car
19. When clearing controversy or a disagreement, it is important to express in words
20. When communicating feelings it is important to use non-verbal messages. For instance, if one is annoyed or displeased with the issue, if one keeps silent, the other person will understand that one is affected or displeased with the issue. Silence in this case is a non-verbal communication tool.
