The question about the role of man and woman in the distribution of household tasks and the upbringing of children is one of the most discussed in every family. This issue has a fairly wide range of options, so we cannot generalize that in each family division of responsibilities occurs in one way or another. Often, it happens naturally and depends on peculiarities of each person, but there are some common established rules how should the distribution of responsibilities in the family happen.
Chores
Female chores should primarily include cooking and washing the dishes. Clean dishes are a measure of the purity of women and the guarantee of peace in the family. Also, washing the floor, wiping the windows, watering flowers, wiping the dust are a sacred duty of a woman. In general, house cleaning refers to the female half of the population, but a woman should always be able to ask the man for help. The main thing is to do it gently (Covert).
If we talk about the male responsibilities at home, here should be necessarily included the work that requires some physical preparation or is just considered as "male". For example, to change a light bulb, to hammer a nail, to clean the carpets, to repair the sink - it's hard to imagine a woman doing it, isn’t it? Also, a man needs to be responsive. If a woman asks a man to help her with some little thing, for example, to take out the garbage, he shouldn’t deny.
If a family has children, some women's responsibilities in cleaning should be assigned to the son or daughter in order to teach a child to work from the early childhood. I want to emphasize that it concerns not only girls. Boys must also understand that the cleaning is not an easy job, so that not to blame their wives of “doing nothing” if the future (Hartwell-Walker).
I know many families where the distribution of responsibilities at home is precisely the same as it is described above. It does not mean that a man is not engaged in anything. He earns money to support his wife and children, and the woman keeps the domestic hearth. Due to such state of affairs in the family prevails understanding, a man is pleasant to come back to the house where it is clean and a hot meal is waiting for him, and he does not refuse to help the woman is she suddenly needs it. As a result, all family members are happy, no one reproaches the other, and there is calm and comfortable situation at home.
Parenting
I think no one will argue that since the birth of the baby most of the time spends with the mother. This aspect of human life has developed historically: a woman bears a child, gives birth to him, and feeds him with breast milk. With the growing up of the child the man should join his upbringing. For example, teaching the child to talk, walk, read - these actions cannot be attributed specifically to the male or female duties; this should be done by both parents.
Nevertheless, if we try to distribute responsibilities in the upbringing of children to a purely male and purely female, we will get something like this:
With a woman (mother) the child feels safe. For example, if the mother is next to the baby, and the child communicates with someone unknown, he feels secure. However, if the mother is out of sight, the child immediately begins to worry and feels that he is not protected from the outside world. Also, women should help the child to develop: to read books together, to teach him to write, to assemble puzzles, to play different kinds of games, to help with doing homework. Putting the kid to bed and help to get up in the morning, get ready for school, give him the lunch and everything like that also should not be excluded from women’s responsibilities.
A man, first of all, must provide the child with a good education: the choice of kindergarten, school, and maybe even institute lies on him (however, in this issue I am of the opinion that the child himself should decide what he wants to do in the future without succumbing to the influence of parents). Also, fathers should attach their children to engage in sports and even to be engaged together. It will not only help to develop the child's athletic abilities but also you will become closer and better understand each other (Verial).
In conclusion I would like to say that each family member should be encouraged for the manifestation of interest in a particular type of work (even in elementary trash removal, for example). Praising is one of the main motivators for each person, regardless of gender and age. It is necessary to be able to listen to the wishes and preferences of each other. If you do that, the question of domestic responsibilities will fade into the background and will not cause daily quarrels and disputes.
Bibliography
Covert, Bryce. “Why it matters that women do most of the housework”. Thenation. 30 April 2014. Web. 15 April 2016
Hartwell-Walker, Marie. “Chore war: household tasks and the two-paycheck couple”. Psychcentral. N.d. Web. 15 April 2016
Verial, Damon. “Roles of men & women in parenting”. Everydaylife. N.d. Web. 15 April 2016
